(Closed) not sure how to interpret this invite…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 108
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

How insanely tacky!! I would not attend at all. I truly hope your Fiance backs you up on this one. 


What’s up with the rediculous stories on here recently?!

Post # 109
442 posts
Helper bee

To the OP – you mentioned your Fiance didn’t see anything wrong with this? Would he feel the same if it the table was turned? Granted, most guys aren’t all hopped up on weddings and stuff and would probably rather find a sports bar to chill out in vs a mushy wedding, but find a scenario he might equate to and see how he would feel then. He really should back you up here, if for no other reason than that YOU would be left alone for hours on end, feel snubbed/slighted, etc. Not cool! Just saying … 

Post # 110
469 posts
Helper bee

I know I posted earlier, but I just read the invite to my SO and asked for his reaction, and he said “What?! F*** them, I wouldn’t go without my pocket fox.”

Post # 111
510 posts
Busy bee

@amicelli13:  that’s pretty rude. Are they trying to save money on the reception, but still wanted everyone to be in the pics as if she invited a lot of people?

Post # 112
1736 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

This made me happier than it should have


@OP. I would decline and send back a note with all of the lovely ideas the bees have had.

ETA: OR… Call them up and ask them which one of them would like to attend your whole wedding, and which would like to hang out at mcdonalds for six hours? Just so you know when you do your invites.


Post # 113
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@vorpalette:  “What in the actual fuck” is my sentiment exactly. 

Post # 114
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I certainly wouldn’t attend. It’s bad enough inviting you to the after party only, but then also expecting you to be there 6 hours earlier for the photos, when it’s a 2.5 hour drive – ridiculous, crazy, rude, etc.

I’d let Fiance decide whether he wanted to attend alone. Yes it’s rude to invite him only, but sometimes I’m prepared to overlook that, depending on the nature of the friendship. My husband was invited to a wedding without me when we were engaged, and I survived.

Post # 115
3134 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is definitely Weddingbee hall of fame material for the worst invitation wording ever.  I actually cannot figure out how they think it’s ok for you to wait around for them while your Fiance is witnessing their ceremony and eating dinner.  You can’t even go to the ceremony?!  WTF.

I think your Fiance seriously needs to say that he will only be attending the events that you are invited to.

I can’t wait to see what happens here.

Post # 116
1338 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sincerely wondering how they came to the conclusion that this is a good solution for their budget problems. It makes them look ridiculous!


I wouldn’t do anything to shame them on their day though. They may be idiots, but I feel like their wedding day should still be an undisturbed one.


Just decline to go.

Post # 117
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@batwoman:  lmao HILARIOUS!

I can’t believe they did that on the invite! Tacky. I didn’t even know that existed… who thinks of the wording for that and then actually thinks it’s okay?! Would they want to be split up at a wedding for six hours? Hmmm, I’m guessing not! We have to have two weddings because of guest count  0.o

Post # 118
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This is so rude and so ot of line. I would be declining.

Post # 119
1534 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Very rude and dare I say the T word…yeah I’ll go there. It’s straight up tacky. I’d be sitting down with the Fiance and explaining how wildly inappropriate  this is and how hurt you are. There is no way I would be attending such a wedding. Nor would I send a gift-of any kind. I typically send something small if I can’t attend.  Not for this couple. Just tacky, tacky, tacky. 

Post # 120
2683 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Wonderstruck:  +1 

Totally insane. No. This is not ok. So you need to go out and find your own dinner 3 hours away from home to come back for their dancing? Eff that noise. 

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