(Closed) Not sure how to pick my bridesmaids – Help!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1159 posts
Bumble bee

@theredhead:  I think you might have to choose between just having your 2 sisters and sister in law and no friends or having all 5 friends plus 3 sisters.

Post # 4
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

To be honest, I would actually make all 5 of them bridesmaids. Why can’t you have 8? I think mine might be the unpopular decision because smaller bridal parties usually = less drama and so are usually the better/more popular decision. However, in this situation, you guys are all really close friends, it sounds like you have all really been there for each other, and it sounds like you have a lot of fun together. If I were you, I would want all of these women involved in the same way to honor their role in your life. I do think excluding two could cause hurt feelings since you guys are usually a group. 

I was personally not asked to be a bridesmaid in one of my bridesmaid’s weddings this past summer. I was totally cool and calm on the outside, and I put a smile on my face and supported the bride in anything she needed (wedding advice, dress support, borrowing my bridal sneakers, etc.)… but I can’t say that I still wasn’t hurt and that on the inside it made me sad. I wouldn’t want to make any of my friends feel that way, and if those two girls would potentially still be there for you in the way a bridesmaid is (like I was there for my friend even though I wasn’t officially party of the bridal party), then I think you should just have an 8 person bridal party.

Post # 6
6 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had a dilemma picking mine out too and it ended up being my best decision for many reasons. My friend, who has been married 10 years, told me the best advice on how to pick them. “Pick someone you see being in your life forever. This way you don’t look back and regret any decisions.”


I decided not to put one of my brothers Fiance (my future sis-in law) in my  wedding because I didn’t think she would be around forever, horrible to say I know. BUT Eventually she broke off the wedding with my brother just 2 months before their date. My older sister intuition was spot on. My other future SIL was my guest book attendant and was with us all day. She felt every part of the day as my bridesmaids did.


What I’m saying is don’t stress about it. If you only want the 3 you lived with do that and don’t look back. Make the other girls guest book attendants or readers. Include them in the whole day, hair, makeup, on party bus/limo if you have one. They’ll feel as much a part of the day as the other girls. Good luck!

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