- 5 years ago
…but she is being a real BEEOTCH!!
I have posted about this issue in the past, only now the fiance is back in the states and things have not improved. My best friend is soon to be married (52 days away to be exact) and looking from the outside in, it will be a desaster of a marriage if I’ve ever seen one.
They started dating in January of 2012, they were engaged in April of 2012. He deployed for 9 months in July of 2012 and returned in March 2013. Their wedding is in July of this year. Since he has been back, she has done nothing but belittle him and order him around left and right whenever me and my boyfriend or any of our other friends are around.
We all dread having to hang out with both of them, together simply because it is always so painfully awkward. In an attempt to get to know them better as a couple (I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor and will give a speech) my boyfriend and I invited them over to a dinner and some drinks. Big mistake. The entire evening she put him down, spoke over him, told him she was “mad” at him and that he is in “trouble” for no real reason at all. After they left my boyfriend was besides himself. All he could do was look at me and say “I’m glad we arent like them.” I was emabrassed for her and myself.
Last night was another awkward incounter. My boyfriend and I, along with another couple, met them at their new house to get the big tour and help stuff envelopes with their wedding invites. My boyfriend was the one to help her design the wedding invites, because her finance had no interest or opinon on the matter. Her fiance also had no interest in helping the rest of us fill envelopes with HIS wedding invites and rsvp cards. He sat there and watched as we put together 200 invites.
Later on in the evening she told him he was getting the silent treatment (and performed this treatment for half the night while we were present) and that he was sleeping “on the dog bed”. All of this because he found out he will not be able to join her and myself on our trip to their wedding venue. It will be the first time she has seen it herself. He has some military ribbon event he has to attend instead.
Bringing this all together I am at a loss as to what I should do, or if I should say or do anything at all. She is my close friend, we have known each other for about 8 years and never before have I seen her behave this way with any of her previous boyfriends. Its hard for me to sit and watch them go through with this wedding when they dont seem to be very happy or caring or loving towards each other. These are things I believe people at least display with the wedding right around the corner. They are supposed to still be all bubbly and lovey and happy and excited about their new lives together….and all I see is bickering (usually one-way bickering)