(Closed) Not sure how to tell him I'm ready

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@thefemalebenfolds:  I don’t think it should be too difficult. That was 7 months ago after all, and it doesn’t sound like he has any doubts in his mind either.

When you’re having one of your growing old together talks, say something like ‘you know, I’ve been thinking… especially after my brush with death I have given marriage some more thought. These past 7 months with you have been amazing, and I’m not scared of it anymore. I really could see us getting married one day’. That would be a good way to introduce it. If you want to be specific, you could say ‘soon’ instead of ‘one day’. Hopefully then he will take the lead on asking you what you mean by it and how soon etc.

Post # 4
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5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am similar to you in that when my husband would bring up our future, I would tell him that I wasn’t ready. Also, he didn’t excatly say he was ready either. He would just say things like “do you want to be engaged?” “are you happy with the way things are?” etc. and he never said “we” just “you.” I always responded with “I’m fine, not ready, etc.” 

Well then one day I knew I was ready, so I had to tell him that I was in fact ready that way he knew, haha! So I literally just walked up to him, kissed him, and said “I am ready to be engaged, just wanted you to know that.” he looked at me weird and just said “okay.” A month later we were engaged. 🙂 

So while my approach was very blunt, I had totally picked up on the fact that he was waiting for me, so unless I told him flat out, he would of thought I still felt the same way. 

Post # 5
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1405 posts
Bumble bee

I would just say that maybe he should go get the that ring from your Aunt now.

Post # 6
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9691 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@thefemalebenfolds:  It doesn’t sound like he’s scared so I would just have a simple conversation and say “Hey remember when you told me when I was ready…well, I’ve been thinking about it and I am ready now…, etc, etc”

I wouldn’t worry about him being scared off.  I moved in with my Fiance 3.5 months after we met (we met at 27) and we were engaged by the 1 year mark.  Sometimes it just happens!

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