(Closed) Not sure I want to be Catholic anymore…but I don't fit in anywhere else.

posted 8 years ago in Christian
Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@MrsCreeToBe:  What is it that you’re looking to get from a church?  It’s ok to not agree on everything!

For example, maybe a church doesn’t support immaculate conception and you’ve stated you do.  Do that actually pose a problem with that church for you though?  Maybe the reverse is something you prefer, a church thinks it’s a sin to have premarital sex, and you don’t; but that doesn’t bother you.

You’ll probably have an easier time finding what you’re looking for, when you have a list of the most important points in what you’re looking for.  It’s hard to find something if you don’t know what it is!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m in the same boat.  I’m Catholic but am much more liberal and definitely don’t agree with everything the church teaches (I’m pro gay marriage, use contraception, for stem-cell research, IVF is just fine by me).  However, it’s going to be very difficult, if not impossible, to find a church that is 100% in line with what you believe.  I decided not to leave the Catholic church because I agree with most of it’s core principles dealing with faith and I like that it’s not strictly bible based.  Also, it’s the original and for some reason that appeals to me.  But really it is really a personal preference.  You can definitely visit other churches and see if you like any better.

Oh, and FYI, the Catholic church official position is pro-evolution and openly recoganizes that it is not the role of the church to deal with or explain science (read that in one of the books my priest let me borrow).

 

Post # 19
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Busy bee

live your life and do whatever you want. dont let any PERSON on earth tell you that how you live or think or act is wrong. if in your heart, youre doing good—-you’re doing good.

you dont need to attach a label to your religion.

God wasn’t Catholic. Jesus wasn’t even Christian. God has no religion. He is LOVE. 

“I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.” Gandhi

ps and yes, i am Catholic.

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have many same beliefs as you and I still consider myself a Catholic.  I know I may not agree with all of their beliefs but I still like attending church.  Spiritually I like being catholic.  I did have a falling out of the catholic church a few years ago.  I went to my husband’s church which is Lutheran.  I heard it was the most similar to Catholic chuch.

Honestly, I didn’t like it. I’m not that religious, either.  (I go to church about once a month.) It was similar but I felt like things were missing. Growing up as a catholic, I missed some of the traditional practices like the praying to Saints, believing that the Eucharist was the body of christ… etc.

I felt like I fit better in the catholic church. It might be because of what I was used to growing up. It’s not perfect but it aligns with what I want spiritually.  As for the other controversial stuff, I turn my head the other direction. I have gay friends that are still catholic so I figure they somehow have gotten around the catholic’s conservative views.

Like others have said, there is no perfect church.  I think you should try other religions and churches and see if you like it.

Good luck!

Oh, have you tried switching parishes?  Some parishes may preach anti-gay values a little more.  Luckily, the two parishes, I’ve been to have been slightly liberal.  So, it’s not that bad.

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I think it’s time for you to go Episcopal. It’s a Catholic denomination, not Protestant. Episcopals in America are socially liberal.

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

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@FoxyBride14:  Yes, Episcopals baptize. I was baptized as an infant in the Episcopal church. They also offer confirmation.

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@RunsWithBears:  I decided not to leave the Catholic church because I agree with most of it’s core principles dealing with faith and I like that it’s not strictly bible based.


THIS!!!!

Oh, and FYI, the Catholic church official position is pro-evolution and openly recoganizes that it is not the role of the church to deal with or explain science (read that in one of the books my priest let me borrow).

+1!!!!

anywho here’s my thoughts…. not so elegantly stated b/c I’m not the best with words… Even if I disagree with some of the things the church teaches… there are a few REALLY BIG things that the catholic church has that NO other church has. The one big one… the true presence of Jesus in the eucharist. Some of the other things that keep me going is the intercession of the many cannonized saints, the Immmaculate conception, the fact that I can go to mass ANYWHERE in the world and get the same readings that I’d be getting in my home parish… I can continue on and on but you get the point. For me I think you’re allowed to doubt some of the teachings. That’s healthy! You should be constantly questioning your faith, it allows you to further grow. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@mrsSonthebeach:  Thank you! Then I am more open to the idea, when the time comes. I’m not super-religious, but it’s just the one issue that I feel really strongly about, and I wouldn’t want my child to not be baptized as an infant.

I hear that it’s Catholic-lite. Many people have said that the mass is very similar to the Catholic mass. There’s a church close to me, so maybe I will go and check it out.

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

My boyfriend is Catholic (I wasn’t raised in religion) and his answer would be very simple – he’d say ‘well then you’re not Catholic’.

He is divorced, and stopped being a practicing Catholic (if you can call it that). He still believes in God and the general principles and so on, but feels like he’d be a hypocrite since he is doing so many non-Catholic things. I guess being Catholic is pretty much all or nothing, the way he describes it.

It sounds to me like you’d be better off in a more liberal church. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with switching… if your beliefs conflict with those of the church then what’s the point in pretending?

Like I said, I’m not religious and am seeing this from the perspective of an outsider, so maybe what I am saying won’t fly for you, but you should give it some thought.

This is why I could never be Catholic. I like the idea of stem cell research (as long as it isn’t abused), I think abortion is ok in some cases, etc. Not sure about the gay marriage thing, but I guess if I were Catholic I’d have to go along w. the whole of it – I can’t just pick and choose which things I want to follow. That’s the beauty of being spiritual vs. religious I think… I could never say that I have to follow a certain doctrine or anything.

Post # 27
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Wannabee

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MrsCreeToBe:  Dear brother, don”t branch out from thr root, just like everyone has to feel more accepted or like you belong, the root will alaways be your catholic church, the 1st christian church, remember that, Christ was not accepted, he never belong, and we are to be like him. You need to be humble and loving, even when your not been love, I know this sounds hard, but trust me, if your not in the root, don”t except to be closer to God, or Jesus”s church in another branch because your gonna be ever further from him

respectuffuly

your sis in christ

sara 

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Post # 28
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Wannabee

i think when we all die, God is gonna ask us, why we left his church? 🙁 and were gonna say: because of your priest, or people, or so many things, and then, he might say: i was the founder of only one church, not 10, you were suppouse to follow me, and my example

Post # 29
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Wannabee

my action suggestion, to pray, no prayer, no help from God, prayer is the communication with God, and God has the answers

Post # 30
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Newbee

I think that sometimes, we get so caught up in church shopping or in finding the place where we fit in best that it’s easy to lose sight of why we go to church in the first place. In Christianity, everyone sins or in some way isn’t in total conformity with God, so really no one belongs…But at the same time, everyone is in the same boat and we all belong. Don’t worry about finding a 100% match to a church. Just go to worship God because that’s why we’re all supposed to go anyway. No one but God is allowed to judge you, so don’t be concerned with the judgment of the church itself as long as you’re going and giving it your all.

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