(Closed) Not sure if I am being the zilla or them, but need to vent.

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
994 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That’s totally unfair of him, and awkward with him being your boss. Are they footing the bill? Even so, most people don’t have that much extra room at the venue. I’m sorry.

Can your Fiance talk to his family?

Post # 4
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think if you already ordered invites and are fine with your list, there is no need to add additional people. It looks like the family had plenty of opportunities to add to the list and failed to take you up on your offer. In regards to the company, I definitely don’t think you should have to invite the entire company. I would just tell your future Grandfather in law that this occasion will be on the smaller scale and is for family only. There is no need to have people you don’t get along with attend your special day. 

Good luck and don’t get upset! Keep your sight on what you want!

Post # 5
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would have your fiance handle this one, since it’s his family.  I would definitely not give in on this one either.  You gave everyone plenty of notice for needing guest lists, plus, since when does the grandfather in-law’s entire company get to come to a wedding?  Ridiculous!

Post # 6
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Luckily you have already booked your venue so it gives the perfect out!

Your Fiance can deal with this one since it is his family. “No can do, Grandfather, the venue cannot hold any more people. Too bad you didn’t respond earlier before we booked the venue.”

Post # 7
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I agree that you should have your Fiance handle this.  It’s not something you need to put yourself in a bad position over.


Post # 8
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

oh my, that really sucks– you are not being a ‘zilla at all!

I totally agree with what  @julies1949: and @GreenGables: said.

if you in-law / boss puts his foot down and nobody in the family can talk him out of it, can there be a compromise? like, have him narrow the list down to a much smaller number of people?

it is totally unreasonable for him to ask you to add 30 people along with their plus ones after you have booked your venue!!

Post # 11
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Miss Mitzie:wow, that is really annoying. and rude. and obnoxious. but yeah, since they are paying for it… I think your hands are kind of tied.

Post # 12
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Sadly, he who pays the piper genrally calls the tune….no matter how obnoxious the tune is. Have your fiance explain the issue of how many the venue  can accomadate, see what he says and go from there.

Post # 13
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

As nicely as u can,tell him the reason y u cant.

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