- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014 - Garden
Hi, and thanks in advance for your responses, I found the weddingbee site by googling “my boyfriend wants to buy a new car instead of an engagement ring” and even though I found some grat advice in other posts, I wanted to explain my particular case.
We started a long distance relationship 4 years ago, well, not so “long” distance, he’s a pilot, so he went to my city pretty regularly to see me and hang out, and I also traveled a lot to his city, lets say almost every weekend. I recently moved in with him, to the new apartment he bought. (Financially he is a lot better than I am, he makes 4x more than I do)
Things are going great now that we live together, I really enjoy being with him, my new job and my new friends, I think it was a very good decision to move in here. Nevertheless, I thought we were going to be engaged by now, and has not happened, and I don’t see it happening anytime soon.
Two nights ago, he talked to me and told me he was getting a new car, and also he’s paying the mortgage from the apartment we are living in now. He has this plan to end the mortgage in max 3 years, which I applaud, he is very finance savvy and I love that from him, but I wonder when are we getting married?
He also talked to me about buying a weekend house together, he even took me there to see the house, and toll the agent to calculate our payments as a couple, but he also ask her to explain the process of owning a property together if we are not married.
He keeps telling me that I am the love of his life, that he is very happy that I moved in, that he can’t wait to have kids, that he’d love marry me, that I just need to be patient, and all that jazz, but I don’t see an engagement anytime soon, say in the next two years.
Bottomline, he is happy with the way we are now, I don’t think he wants a more serious relationship, I like it too, but I do want to get serious and start a life together as a married couple, and I’m not saying it has to happen this year or anything, I just want to straight things out and see if we are getting more serious in the future or not.
He is not open to talk about it, when I bring the subject up, he just say that I am pushing him and ask me to slow down and change subject.