Post # 1
Just got engaged last week and I feel like an awful person posting this, but I’m just not falling completely in love with my ring like I thought I would. The ironic thing is I picked the setting and told my fiance cut, etc. I guess it just didn’t turn out exactly how I was picturing. I still think it’s beautiful, I just can’t stop wondering if I would be happier swapping out the setting. One thing I thought might help is changing the prongs to a double prong to soften the angular looking edges of the center diamond. I’ve already mentioned to my fiance that I think they are a bit sharp so this might be an easier “sell” for us to do that vs. Changing the whole setting. The thing is I’m still not sure that I’ll love it at that point. It’s also bothering me that the knifes edge band is not super comfortable. I don’t mean to sound ungrateful for getting exactly what I thought I wanted, but at the same time it’s a lot of money to spend on something I’m not sure about. What do you think of the ring and which approach would you take? Thanks in advance!
Post # 2
I think it’s beautiful but if you want a change I think the prongs you are thinking about would look great
Post # 3
I think that ring is beautiful. From the pics the prongs are almost invisible which makes the center diamond look like it is floating. Personally I perfer the look of barely there prongs versus prominent prongs especially when the setting has a delicate look such as yours. Changing the prongs to the double prongs will make the setting metal heavy and may look out of place compared to the pave of the band. Sometimes it takes a moment for a ring to grow on you. If you really do not like change it, but know what will make ou happy.
Post # 4
I think its beautiful. I dont think changing the prongs is too big of a deal (though I see no issue with your current prongs) but if you pick a setting and stone shape and then switch it out a few weeks later at a significant financial loss, thats bratty IMO. I would give it some time to grow on you.
Post # 5
Amazing ring, but you have to love it too, OP!
Post # 6
sparklesalways: Yeah that’s what I’m trying to avoid. Luckily the jeweler is a family friend of my fiance’s, so he likely wouldn’t charge us much if anything to change the prongs. The problem is that the jeweler only carries one designer for rings, and I looked at everything they had and this is the only one that I really liked. So if I change the setting entirely, then I’d have to go somewhere else, and since this one was already customized, I’m not sure if he’d buy it back.
Post # 7
You’re not ungrateful. You’re just finding that something that looks good on the hanger doesn’t feel good on your body. (Underwire bras come to mind.)
Prongs and settings are consumables. The metal work would’ve needed repair and/or replacement over time. Talk with your Fiance. Discuss the repair/return policy. Make whatever tweaks are needed to fit your finger or lifestyle right now. Fwiw, I’m very “function over form” with my marital bling and I’m “form over function” with my cocktail rings. If this e-ring were mine, I’d definitely want eight prongs on that center stone and would look for another shank if that knife-edge pinches.
Post # 8
I’m all for getting the ring that you love, however, because you picked this exact ring out, it does come across as a bit bratty wanting to change it only a week in.
I think the prongs are fine but double claw prongs would look very pretty too. I have heard knife edges can take some time to get used to. My friend has a knife edge solitaire and it took her a few weeks to feel comfortable with it (but I also think in general it takes a while to get used to wearing a ring on that finger).
If you do decide to change it, I would pay for it. It’s not fair that your fiance should have to pay for changes you want given you picked it out to begin with.
Post # 9
I think it’s stunning and timeless! I agree on taking some time with it!
What are the specs of the diamond? And is the band digging into the sides or something?
Post # 10
alysajade: I think your ring is beautiful, but I guess the important thing is whether or not you love it. Did you try on rings before you decided on which setting/style to get? If not, maybe you should try different cuts, carats, settings etc. to really get an idea of what you like on your hand?
I wouldn’t start any resetting process, until you are completely sure that it’s not just the prongs that aren’t right. Hope you figure something out or learn to love it over time 🙂
Post # 11
mixprints: The diamond is 1.21 ct, H color, cushion, VS2 clarity. I’m not sure what the mm size is or symmetry.
Also, yes the band does dig into my other fingers a bit, but maybe I’ll get used to it.
Post # 12
It’s a beautiful ring. I have a Tiffany solitaire and I actually complained about the knife edge a week in ugh can you believe it lol but the edge is perfectly comfortable now but was so distracting and painful at first bc I wasn’t used to it. Honestly I don’t think it’s the diamond or the prongs but the band seems a bit too thick maybe because it’s so ornate can you make it skinnier or simpler? that diamond would look gorge in a simple setting (just my preference).
Post # 13
SophBee: I couldn’t really “try” rings because I wear a size 9 ring and most aren’t big enough for me to even try on my finger. I looked online a lot and at one other place that my FI’s sister recommended and there was another I liked but in the end I knew he really wanted to go to the family jeweler he trusted. That one was also pretty (milligrain on the edge instead of the center, graduated so that it got smaller near the stone) but at the time I thought the pave knife edge is just not something everyone has and wanted to be unique. I know I should just rock it and be happy, I don’t think that I would change the stone out, I love the clarity and sparkle and faces up pretty big imo for a 1.2ct cushion. I think I just prefer cushion cut stones that are a bit rounder looking, and the prongs are maybe even taking away from the stone? I’ll post a side view of it and the other ring I considered.
Post # 14
Or can you exhbage the diamond for a solitaire ? Maybe the current square shape with the knife edge is too many hard edges, something to soften it.