Not sure if I need to worry

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

jandbd :  Where I’m from sunset is around 9:00PM in July. Are you saying he went to bed immediately? Or did he stay up and be excited for an hour or two?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My dh had been sleepless for 3 weeks over the proposal. He passed out within minutes. i didnt blame him

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Darling Husband proposed around 1AM when he arrived home from a work trip. I said yes, we said “I love you”, hugged, kissed and went to sleep, lol. We were both exausted as we’re both early sleepers. The next day we went out to celebrate. 

I think your Fiance put a lot of effort into the proposal and maybe he was just tired/sleepy? Don’t read so much into it, just enjoy this new time in your life! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

With all due respect…how is a sunset proposal that includes a man getting down on one knee after decorating a room with lights and candles only “semi” romantic? 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

It was a surprise for you but he knew it was coming. So while you were shocked and adjusting to the newness of the situation, he’d been prepared for it for some time. He stayed up long enough to share the news. He was sleepy, maybe the whole process of planning the proposal was exhausting for him. Give him some credit for setting a romantic scene and just try and let it go and enjoy your engagement.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If this happened back in July and you’re still upset about it, well, that’s just not healthy really. He says he was tired, and it doesn’t sound like he’s given you any reason to doubt that, so it’s probably best to just accept it and move on.  We all have days when we suddenly feel drained and exhausted and want to crash. Maybe he was even exhausted from the anticipation. I know a lot of people don’t sleep well the night before an important event.

Make new memories and celebrate your love together and stop worrying about the past. This is a very minor thing to get hung up on.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

jandbd : Well, my husband and I both went to bed immediately following his proposal.  At least yours didn’t spend the whole day having to decide if that’s what he wanted to do or not.  There’s nothing semi about your proposal.  Glory in it.  Maybe he was super nervous – that can really knock you out after.  I bet he’d feel horrible if he knew you were dwelling on this.  Start looking to the future and don’t worry about the past.  It’s over, there’s no turning back, so now what do you choose to look forward to?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Vineyard Lake

jandbd :  You said, “I didn’t sleep that night”.  Did the proposal happen a few days ago? Did he seem more enthusiastic the next day?

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m pretty sure my husband and I went to bed pretty quickly after the proposal as well. We didn’t even tell anyone for a couple of days!

I think you need to choose to let this go. You will have months to be excited during the engagement.

Post # 12
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Newbee

Well it was a shock for you, so you were probably all full of adrenaline. Maybe he was really nervous and emotionally exhausted after? 

Although I do agree with you. If my partner proposed to me I would want that to be like as exciting for them as it was for me. 

Maybe he wasn’t feeling well but had planned this whole thing and then didn’t want to ruin it. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We went to bed right afterwards too, I don’t think its a big deal!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

“Stemming from [your] doubts”? So you’ve been having doubts about marrying him? 

If everything has been fine with your relationship, and there’s no reason for you to be doubting whether he wants to propose or not, I don’t see why you’re still upset about it… It’s been 3 months since the proposal, how are you two doing now? Are you and your Fiance excited about marrying each other at all?

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