Not sure if I should exchange my engagement ring or keep it – opinions?

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 46
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’d go pick out a ring you both like together. Also consider the wedding band. I wouldn’t worry about what’s in style or popular now though. If you stay married long enough, all that matters is that you love it. 

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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@victoriab127:  You don’t have to get a huge diamond if you continue the search. But, it seems like you overpaid. I can find a 1+ carat lab diamond on rarecarat.com for about $900.  My point is that paying $2000 for this ring is still too much, imo.

Post # 48
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Blushing bee

Maybe you would like the criss-cross aspect of the ring your fiance picked out more if it was more delicate? I have seen a few settings that are similar but with a thinner and more delicate band and basket. Some examples:

https://www.pavejewelers.com/engagement-rings/engagement-rings-with-side-stones?product_id=9275&limit=50 

https://www.pavejewelers.com/index.php?route=product/product&product_id=9259 

I did a quick search for ‘trellis settings’ and found those two. You could bring these photos to your local jeweler and see if they can make a design that’s similar. Might be a compromise, keeping some original elements of the ring but also making it something that’s more your style.

Or scrap that style entirely and pick something new! 

Post # 49
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Bumble bee

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@victoriab127:  You might also want to consider how the engagement ring would pair with a wedding band. In addition to picking the engagement ring out together, you might also find emotional significance in selecting your wedding bands at the same time.

Post # 50
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Your ring is beautiful. But I still think you should return it. Go shopping for rings together. One jewler I went to put a bunch that I selected out on the table, then we just chatted. I kept going back to the same one to try on over and over.  It wasn’t the one I ended up with, but the one I did get was very similar (just a little bigger) so it let me know a lot about my taste.

I’d also consider a used ring, if you aren’t sure what you want. You can get a lot more value for the money. I got mine from Eragem in Seattle and they have great customer service, including free resizing and free returns in 60 days. (they do mostly mail order, I just happened to live close enough to go in person)

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021 - Australia

oh wow, I can definitely see the difference and it looks great! I too am a sap and wouldn’t want to exchange my ring if I didn’t like it either, so I can totally understand where you’re coming from!

Post # 54
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Blushing bee

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@victoriab127:  woohoo! I think that thinning it out even slightly made a huge difference!! Your ring looks great! Glad I could be of some help and that you’re loving your ring! 

Post # 55
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Busy bee

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@victoriab127:  I’d reset the stone in the solitaire setting you want and put your FH birthstone in that setting. Then you can keep ir for sentimental reasons ans a RHR. Win/win!

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

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@victoriab127:  I definitely see a difference! 🙂

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