(Closed) not sure if i want to tell my family this.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t know why society thinks meeting someone in a bar and hooking up is better than meeting someone online actually based on similar values and interests. I met my Fiance playing WoW and everybody knows it. It’s not a dating site (it’s a video game) but it is online and I tell everybody! It’s true a lot of people don’t get it, especially older and/or non-internet people but they come around.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why wouldn’t you tell them?  Meeting online is how a lot of people meet these days, and it’s becoming more and more common!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Haha we had the same problem … well ME much more than Darling Husband.  We met online and he had no problem fessing up… i was the one that had a problem.  My own brother’s had no idea how me met until the rehersal dinner.  Oh well no one thought any less about our relationship and after we fessed up a ton of people started talking about how they had met their SO online too.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s up to you, you can tell them or not. Honestly, I don’t see the big deal either way because it’s not really their business how you met. I don’t think it’s worth stressing over for sure. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would just tell them. Personaly if I told my mother or his we met in a bar they would be far less pleased than the truth which is we met on match.com.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think it’s that big a deal.  Don’t make it into one… just tell them if it comes up, but if you sit them down and explain it to them, it’s going to seem like a bigger deal than it is.  Tons of people meet online nowadays!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I met my Fiance online too (Although not on a dating site.) and to this day – I still HATE telling people about it. Most everybody in my family knows now by now, (mostly thanks to my FI) but after four years of us having been together, I still have some friends don’t know the truth about how we cameto meet. I don’t know why I dislike talking about it so much, since In my experience everybody has had a pretty good reaction to it. Honestly, I’d say just go ahead and tell them!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would tell them! You found the love of your life, who cares where you found them so long as you did!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We met on Eharmony.  The usual reactions is “Wow, that really works?”  I say tell them.  Who cares how you met as long as you met the right person for you.  I would have never met Fiance without Eharmony.  I’m not ashamed I did it, nor do I think it’s weird.  It’s super common these days, and none of my friends and family have had adverse reactions.  Actually, because my Fiance met me his sister tried online dating too.  Now she’s met a great guy.  Tell them, they probably won’t care and it will feel like a weight has been lifted.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I also do not see why it is a big deal. Why be ashamed of it? It is how you met, there is a story there, and it allowed you to be together now, right?

My husband and I met on eHarmony and we tell everyone who asks. We are delighted we did, and that is our story – our history. Without eHarmony we would not have met and would have missed out! Usually they are all quite excited and positive about it! Some people have questions about it, and others start telling stories of their own online meetings or those of others they know. It is far more common to meet online these days, and far more accepted, than it was 10-12 years ago when I first tried online dating!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@sundae.mourning:  I met my fiancé on OkCupid, too! I have met a lot of truly amazing people through that site, and through many others (both dating and non)! Online dating and socializing are fantastic ways to meet people who have the same interests, values, goals, etc. It’s also a wonderful tool for people who are shy or otherwise not good at social scenes. Honestly, I think it’s less weird than meeting someone at a bar, where your first date after that intial meeting is likely based on knowing less about the person than you would after a conversation online. I think a lot of people who look down on online dating believe that we just say hi for a few minutes and then agree to hop into the stranger’s car and go somewhere, when the reality is that we (most of us) spend a good amount of time getting to know the person, establishing a connection and then when we do meet it’s typically in a neutral, crowded location and in our own vehicles. The view that online dating is unsafe and lazy and that we’re not careful is insulting. I am proud to set people straight by telling them how I met my absolutely wonderful fiancé on a FREE dating site. (I emphasize free because, somehow, those sites are looked down upon even more strongly!)

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Why not? I met my Fiance on Plenty of Fish and people in my family thought it was pretty cool.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I think its great! Who cared how you met…you have each other 🙂

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed of- I assume your parents know you were doing online dating before this? Before Fiance I had tried okcupid, eHarmony, and match. It wasn’t how we met (sports), but I would have proudly said “the internet”- that’s been the source for over half the weddings I’ve been to the past 5 years.

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