(Closed) Not sure if my MOH & Jr Bridemaid will show up to my wedding.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

Do you really think they won’t show up to the wedding?  I mean I get having other activities for the bridal shower, etc…but to now see her own brother get married?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How about asking some friends to be in your wedding, and telling the other two that they are no longer in the wedding party? 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mrsrigsby60:  It is rude that they are putting a game for kids over your wedding.  They are choosing other things over your wedding; you can choose other people over them.  

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

If you want them there, I would talk to them.   Tell them how important it is that they are there.  If they are still saying they’re going to go to a 10 year old’s softball game instead of your wedding, call the people in charge of the softball league.  Find out who her team is playing that day, and invite them all to your wedding.  Invite the team she plays for to the wedding as well.  That way, they can’t play softball that day!

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

@peachacid:  Invite the softball team to the wedding? You must be joking!  Could you and Fiance have a heart to heart with SIL, and explain to her that you need a commitment one way or the other ASAP.

Post # 12
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

So she did say she might not be at the wedding?  If that’s the case, I don’t think it would be rude to ask someone else.  It’s rude for her to not think her brother’s wedding was important enough to attend.

EDIT: Just saw you said it was more important for her daughter to get a scholarship. WOW.  Can you have a backup BM/MOH who understands the situation?  Or have your mother stand up as the Maid/Matron of Honor if she doesn’t show up?  If not, I realize it’s sad but you don’t necessarily need to have an attendant.  I’m really sorry about this.  Wow…that’s so selfish of her.  I understand certain things are important but to miss her brother’s wedding…that’s crazy.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It’s not rude to ask them to either commit to being in the wedding or to step down. Being in a wedding is agreeing to fulfill certain obligations, the least of which is to be at the wedding. If they cannot commit to that, then you should ask them to step down. It’s not rude. Accepting a job you aren’t willing to perform… that’s much closer to rudeness.

Post # 16
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I read your post then I looked at your wedding date which is April 2013. That’s over 9 months away! What is so important that cant wait? 

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