(Closed) Not sure if my MOH & Jr Bridemaid will show up to my wedding.

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Softball practice on Saturday evenings in April?   Hmm…   I played through high school and I’ve never heard of such a thing. 

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you spoke to her or your Fiance about your concerns? In one of your previous posts you said you where inviting one friend. Would that be a suitable person to be by your side?

I truly sympathise it’s such a tough thing you are going through.

Post # 36
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Is your lunch near where she lives? If it is surely she should be able to make room in her busy life to meet you all for lunch. 

I am no good at the wait in see it would drive me crazy but if it works for you then you should be all right. 

Have you got a back up plan for if they don’t turn up?

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Can his parents speak to her? If you and her are close why don’t you (when you have time) go to her house and just sit and have a chat about your concerns and fill her in on everything that has been happening with the wedding plans. 

I am sure I am just coming up with things you have already done or thought of. 

Post # 40
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I really sympathise with your situation especially since they should be able to let you know whether than can committ to the wedding day or not. However I have a couple of questions. You mentioned that Future Sister-In-Law is worried about a scholarship for her child. How old is the child? Is it a college scholarship? Is the scholarship important- as in is it the only chance that the child can attend college or make the burden of college a lot easier?

I think it would suck if they could not make it but I don’t think you could be mad if they prioritise a scholarship over your wedding (however I would send daughter with another team mum and attend the wedding) if it is one of the only ways the child can attend college. Education is important after all and I would propritise my childs educational chances over a wedding any day if need be.

If the child is still in middle school or below then I think they can suck it up and miss the game for one day. Maybe knee cap her so that she is injured and can’t play (this is a joke btw)!

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@mrsrigsby60:  wait… shes 9?   You don’t get athletic scholarships when you’re 9.  I could maybe see this if she was in high school, but no, missing ONE off-season practice when you are NINE does not in any stretch of this universe affect her chances of getting a college athletic scholarship.

They are giving you lame excuses.  But its up to you if you want to confront them about it, and it seems like you don’t want to… 

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I will pray for rain for you too! 

If the Future Brother-In-Law and future nephews can make it/commit to it why can’t she? 

Post # 45
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595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Ok, I’m just going to be honest with you because I’ve caught myself doing almost this same thing. You’re finding every single thing that could possibly go wrong with them not showing up and running with it. All of the unknowns won’t 100% lead to them not showing up. Calm down, take a deep breath and stop worrying yourself. You’ve still got PLENTY of time, just talk to them and express your concern, don’t take no for an answer, their excuses to not talk about it are only valid if you allow them to be.

ETA: and by that I mean the “but” you keep using. Don’t let there be a but, take control!

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Have a plan A with them attending, and a plan B with them not attending.

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