(Closed) Not sure if my MOH & Jr Bridemaid will show up to my wedding.

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@mrsrigsby60:   Okay… as long as you know its BS… I respect not wanting to start drama, so like I said, its all in your court if you don’t want to call them out on it.

As for Future Brother-In-Law and not wanting his 9 year old to miss anything sports related, I’d tell him good luck with that.  Prioritizing sports that highly over family and the rest of life at such a young age will more than likely lead not to a college schoarlship, but to her pushing back and rebelling when she gets older.

Post # 50
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@mrsrigsby60:  Seriously? 9?  okay they need to suck it up. Maybe a compromise is in order like I suggested. daughter goes to her games but is taken by another team mum for the day and Future Brother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law and nephew all come to the wedding. Everyone wins and I don’t think FBIL could find a valid excuse for not going with that plan.

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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@mrsrigsby60:  Seriously? I was in no, way, shape or form attacking you, and I think you know that. I was giving you advice on your situation, because these people are being CRAPPY to you, and you don’t need to take it, it’s YOUR wedding.

Post # 54
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@mrsrigsby60:  I know but I think you might have to let that go unfortunately. I don’t think barring injury or rain that Future Brother-In-Law is going to cave. Work with what you’ve got and focus on having a beautiful wedding. Maybe do something special with your niece- I am sure as a 9 year old she is probably upset with not being able to be a princess (I mean jnr BM) for a day. Make sure she know that she is important and you love her 🙂 I think it sucks for both you and her.

Post # 55
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

By plan B I meant not having Maid/Matron of Honor nor Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man but arranging wedding in a way that their absence is not so obvious.  The most important people in your wedding will be you, Fiance and your committment to each other, everyone else is of minor importance.

Post # 57
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I do not get you, if you do not care that their absence is obvious then why care that they would look bad. If you do not want them to look bad make their possible absence less obvious, or just forget about the issue.

Post # 61
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Sounds to me like your Future Brother-In-Law is alot like your ex.

Why is the niece’s practice more important than her brother? Is he not in sports also?

If sports is so important than any excuse will work for the Future Brother-In-Law & his family not to be at your wedding. And why did they agree to be in your wedding if there was even a hint that there may have been a sporting event to keep them away.

It is your FBIL’s way of controling the whole event!!

 

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