(Closed) Not sure if this fits here or not…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Do you have the option of supplying your own alcohol, or do you have to buy it through your venue?  If you get to supply it, you could always just slowly stock up on cases before your wedding.  That way, the cost won’t hit you all at once.  Were you planning on trying to offer a full bar?  You could reduce the cost by just offering beer and wine.  You can score wine for pretty cheap at places like Trader Joe’s.  We stocked up well before our wedding so we didn’t notice the cost as much πŸ™‚

The dollar dance is often times customary depending on your culture. The ones that I have seen haven’t been much of a cash grab, just a dance with the bride in exchange for $1.  If you’re not comfortable with it, I’d just try and explain that you don’t want to do it (since you’d be the one dancing with people!). 

Post # 4
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

This is a tough situation. I have to admit that cash bars and dollar dances (unless it is a cultural tradition) are not my favorite.  A good compromise might be to set up a honeymoon or wedding gift fund website. Your guests can give you monetary contributions to your honeymoon or wedding. My husband and I set up a honeymoon gift fund and 60 % of our guests contributed. We got great feedback from the guests who used the site and every couple we have suggested this idea to has used the service.  Good luck!

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Post # 6
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

here in nm its a cultral things its basically blessing the bride and groom with money and wishing them prosperity for the future. My cousins wedding the guests paid the bride and groom to dance with them and my friends wedding the guests pin money all over the bride and groom! i for one do not want pin holes all over my dress!! but i would do an open bar if money allows and hold a dance for your guests to par take in

Post # 7
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@SweetCheeks:  I don’t know about the dolar dance, since I’ve never seen one, but If you are going to make guest pay for their own booze, you might as well just have a dry wedding and save yourself the trouble.

Post # 9
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@SweetCheeks: First, I’d like to mention that different cultures and regions have different views of what is “tacky” or not. For instance, around here cash bars are incredibly common and no one bats an eyelash at them or thinks they’re rude. Dollar dances are extremely popular in some countries and guests would actually be weirded out if there wasn’t one at a wedding!

I think doing the beer in buckets thing sounds fun for a casual BBQ wedding, but if you don’t want your guests to pay, you could just have it up for grabs instead? I don’t think that would be too expensive so maybe that is a way your Fiance and you can meet in the middle. Also, I think unless you’re from a culture where dollar dances are common, you shouldn’t do it.

Post # 10
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

He thinks it would be a good idea to buy a bunch of beer, put it in iced buckets

This part sounds great

and have our guests pay for each bottle they consume.

This part is pretty rude. 

You’re already getting a great deal since you don’t have to pay venue prices for alcohol which is a lot so its not going to put you back too much.

Post # 11
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

First, I don’t agree with the idea that its better to have a dry wedding than to have guests pay for drinks. I’ve been to dry weddings before… and I would have paid ALOT just to get a beer if there had been an option.

We threw money towards our bar… which ended up lasting us through cocktail hour and about an hour or so into the reception. After that, it was a cash bar.

I do agree with PP’s ideas to start buying the beer now, so its a smaller cost over time. Some bigger chain liquor stores also give you a discount for buying in bulk… (i.e. you might get 15% off for buying so many cases of beer…)

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