Post # 1
Fi just said something that really upset me. It could be my period talking but here’s what happened.
I just got home from class and he was asleep, we both work evening/night shift so we sleep a lot during the day. Well we were supposed to go to the bank today and open a joint account so I woke him up when I got home. He was kinda grumpy since this is his normal sleeping time, but as you all know there aren’t any 24 hour banks in oklahoma. So he gets up and goes to the bathroom, comes back and I tell him if he’s really tried we can just go in the morning after he’S off work. Thinking that i could take a nap before work. Then he tells me that he can’t go back to sleep because I already woke him up and he can’t sleep when I sleep so close to him. We’ve been living together for a year and he’s never said anything like that. And we almost always go to sleep with me under the wing (his arm around my shoulders).
I didn’t say anything other than I didn’t know he felt that way and that I would stay on my side of the bed now. But it really upset me because I thought he liked being close when we slept. Guess I was wrong. So how do I stay on my side of the bed now? When he’s at work at night I always sleep on his side cause it makes me feel safe being at home alone, now I find out he doesn’t like it. Again this is probably my hormones talking but I had to get it out.
Post # 3
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It was probably him being grumpy more than your hormones. (I have to toughen up, but that would hurt my feelings.) I say things like that when I get woken up or am really tired or emotional. He probably didn’t mean it, but it wouldn’t hurt to ask him what he meant/if he meant it.
Post # 4
I think that you may be over thinking it a bit, but he may also be grumpy. Fiance made a similar comment to me. He said that he preferred the dog sleeping between us so that i wasnt “flailing all over him”. at first i was pissed, but then i got over it, and now i make him eat those words. I cuddle the dog and he doesnt get bothered. Its turned into a joke when he wants to cuddle, i just tell him no, no i dont want to flail all over you:)
Post # 5
This is probably only going to be marginally helpful because your feelings are your feelings and everything…
Don’t overthink this. There is no deeper meaning here. He is probably hot when you sleep that way or his arm falls asleep. It is not a referendum on how he feels about you. My Darling Husband actively tries to get away from me in bed because I am so warm.
Post # 6
I think he may have just been grumpy. Try talking to him about this when he’s fully awake and in a better mood. That’s the only way to know for sure.
Post # 7
@LGenz: LOL me too. My H wants SO FAR away from me, especially in the summer. So we may have a little snuggle time before bed, but then he escapes to his side.
So, I agree, don’t overthink. He loves you he just wants a little more space in the bed.
Post # 8
I wouldnt take it to heart. I am that way with my fiance. and im the girl lol. I love to cuddle but for sleeping purposes I cannot be right on him and I get really hot when he crowds my side of the bed. It has nothing to do with not being close to him but layin in the same bed is close enough for me. Its not anything against him or that I dont love sleeping next to him. And the part about you sleeping on his side when he’s at work shouldnt matter since he isnt there. Plus just an fyi, my fiance is a total beast when he just wakes up. He’s not a “morning” person, and that applies even if it isnt technically morning time. I would just let him know it kind of stung but not make too big of a deal of it.
Post # 9
I think it’s a combination of his grumpiness and your hormones 🙂 No deeper meaning here. I love my Fiance but I like to be by myself and spread out when I’m sleeping
Post # 10
Guys tend to overheat when they sleep (I think, they all seem to throw blankets off anyways) so maybe that’s it. Mine complains, but then complains I’m not cuddling him too, and one time he shoved me off the bed in his sleep, that’s right, put two hands on me a pushed me off the bed. I still tease him about it. If he’s too hot or restless at that particular time then yeah, it’ll bug him, nothing to do with you just physical comfort, like feeling like you need to change position but can’t because you don’t want to move someone. I get like that too. If he still likes cuddling with you and just sometimes doesn’t like it when he can’t sleep I wouldn’t take it personally.
Post # 11
My husband can’t sleep if anyone is touching him. We have four dogs who sleep in our bed. They occasionally cuddle up to him, but his tossing and turning annoys them and they move. Most nights it’s him on one side, and me snuggling with all the dogs on the other.
I don’t take it personally any more. He’s tried falling asleep snuggling with me, but we’ve had the current arrangement so long that it’s weird for me too.
The only exception is if he’s tired enough in the daytime that he wants to take a nap. He likes holding me and falling asleep then.
Post # 12
He just sounds grumpy because he just woke up. I’m a miserable B if I get woken up, so…yeah. That’s all it was. Don’t sweat it.