- Miss Sparklespaniel
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
So I had this group of friend in high school and we were all pretty close. We used to go and hang out at one girl’s house and her mum would look after us all and we all became pretty good friends with her mum. Anyway, I kept in touch with this girl’s mum but have since fallen out of contact with the daughter. She hasn’t proven to be a very good friend (stole another friend’s fella and when I told her the fella and I had gotten engaged she texted me and said “gone are the days of sparklespaniel the hussy” when I was NEVER even like that!!! I just feel that she can be a bit of a toxic person and have no particular interest in reigniting any kind of friendship with her.
Anyhoo, I really want to invite this girls parents to the wedding cos I consider her mum to be a friend (and I know the mum would be devastated if she wasn’t invited) but I really don’t want to invite the daughter. It kinda makes it more awkward cos the daughter is an only child so they’re really a kind of unit.
I’ve considered just inviting the parents and explaining to them that the daughter and I have just fallen out of touch and don’t really have anything in common anymore and then leaving the ball in their court. I don’t want to upset anyone but I think it probably will upset the mum. At the same time I really want to be true to myself because I can’t stand the idea of this girl being at my wedding – she’d probably come up to me and tell me I looked like a slut – then if I got offended she’d be like “Urgh, I’m only joking!”
Plus the mum has something against one of the girls in our group. This girl(R) and I kinda fell out of contact a few years ago and she then went overseas for a year or so. Anyhoo, R has hung out with us a few times and I wouldn’t be suprised if we became better friends by our November wedding and we wanted to invite her and her boyfriend. I’m worried that if the mum is there she’ll see R and crack it majorly cos she thinks R is horrible and that I shouldn’t be friends with her.
How can I invite people I want to come to the wedding and avoid all the politics?? For us it’s not really the size of the wedding, it’s more that we only want people we really want to be there to be there if that makes any sense at all. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!!