(Closed) Not sure what to do…

posted 11 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Do you know a pastor or priest (or even a family member or friend that you look up to) that you could both sit down and talk with about your differences?  I think, regardless of denomination, a leader in a church would want to see you both on the same page as believers. It’s important for both in a relationship to have a good understanding of what you each believe.

I know that there are a lot of differences betweent the Catholics and the Protestants, but I think if you can share common ground in the fundamentals of what you believe, then you can overcome the minor differences.

Post # 4
348 posts
Helper bee

This may be too obvious, but have you tried the Episcopalian churches in your area?  Depending on what is important to him about the Catholic church, they might be more satisfying, while being doctrinally closer to your views.  The Episcopalian liturgy is closer to the Catholic experience, IMO.

By the way, this is a suggestion as much for the long-term as for the wedding.

Post # 5
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I second historienne.  My Fiance and I were in the same position as you too, and we found the Episcopal church to be a great fit for both of us.  I got the theology I preferred (women in ministry) and he got the liturgy and tradition that was important to him. (And come to find out he prefers the theology at the Episcopal church too.)

Post # 6
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I agree with the Episcopal/Anglican church.  A lot of churches I’ve been to have different kinds of services at different times.  For example, there might be a more evangelical service early on Sunday morning, and then a later high Anglican service.  That way, if worship style is also a problem between the two of you, you could go to different services/or go to one service one week and another service another week while still being part of the same church community.

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