(Closed) NOT SURE WHAT TO DO…

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

There is no RULE that you have to provide alcohol for your Guests… etiquette wise or otherwise.

$ 3 K is a lot of money… I think you are being very generous in giving them 2 Hours of Open Bar… switch over to a Cash Bar for the otherhalf of your event, I am positive that your Guests will be ok with it (infact many I would suspect will expecting come and pay for their own drinks anyhow)

 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We talked about this and my question is how far do the guests have to travel to get there? We re doing open bar for this reason…my guests are coming far!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it would be nice to offer *something* post reception. Could you see if the bar will let you offer a signature drink for free & then everything else is cash? Or just offer beer/wine? I really do think, since your guests traveled out for your wedding, you should properly host. That said, I would get over it & just shell out the cash without grumbling if it was a friend/family member’s wedding.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Erm. I would not do that. Your guests are flying all the way to attend YOUR wedding and YOUR post-dinner party but they have to pay for their own drinks. It’s just not ‘nice’.

Can you opt for a limited bar instead? Or just not have the bar completely for your event? Just go somewhere and have drinks since it’s a small wedding?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

can you find another bar you like as much with a cheaper price? 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know that the last few times my Fiance and I have gone to Vegas from the East Coast… our flights have been pretty expensive, even when we look well in advance to try and keep cost down. So I’d try to keep in mind that your guests will be spending a lot, not to mention traveling pretty far to celebrate with you.

That being said, could you try to find a cheaper option, like not have an open bar at the club but maybe do another less expensive event? If you’re getting a suite you could consider hosting everyone for welcome drinks the night before, or hosting a brunch the morning after the wedding. If you can’t afford to do anything extra, I’m sure your guests will understand, but I think they’d also appreciate you trying to do as much as you can since they’re traveling far to be with you.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i would suggest checking out other restaurants for the post ceremony festivities.  see if they will negociate.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MASPA:  its a difficult descision.  I think I read above you said the bar has a 2 hour minimum, so does that mean you could pay $2 k for 2 hours.  Would your Fiance agree to that or he doesnt wnat to spend anymore money after the open bar for dinner.  I guess your options are to ether find a new bar with dancing area with cheaper minimum, or pay it yourself (if Fiance allows), or not have an open bar.  But not having an open bar may cause initial confusion, ie when you get there and people might be wondering if they pay for their own drinks at the start. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MASPA:  maybe thats for the best, they cant always be right can they :-).  Its better to spend a bit more than to be the opposite and at the party wish you had just paid for it if it gets awkward. 

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