(Closed) Not sure what to do =/

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
38 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

You could go back to your plan of going without but there is a lot of emotion in getting engaged.  Maybe let this settle out for a few days before you make this decision.  Maybe she’s having an off day or you’re being more sensitive than you might be in another situation.  Sit on it for a while.



Post # 4
7211 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@sapphirecupcake:  Wait. I don’t understand. You are not having a bridal party. This girl isn’t excited for you. Is there a connection I’m missing? What is the question? Do you think she’s upset because you’re not having a bridal party and so you’re thinking of having one just to appease her? Cause… don’t. She’s already not being a good friend, making her Maid/Matron of Honor isn’t gonna change her selfishness. 

Post # 5
301 posts
Helper bee

I think you have two issues going on. One is you find, after all, that you do want to have bridesmaids, and the other is Denise doesn’t seem to be happy for you. There’s no way you’ll know what she is thinking other than to ask her. As for the first problem, I’ve always felt that it’s not the standing next to you that matters, it’s the support you get along the way. can you have “bridesmaids” who help you plan, dress shop, support you, but do not stand up next to you at the wedding or sit with you at a special table? I completely understand how he might feel lonely since he isn’t aving anyone standing up next to him, but that shouldn’t stop you from your friends be a part of your special day.

Post # 7
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I dont really understand this thread or the grammar in it. Do you or do you not want a bridal party? Also, you are upset bc she didnt say the exact word “congratulations?” Everyone is different and I am not a hyper person that gets excited about much either but that doesnt make her a bad friend.

Post # 9
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sapphirecupcake:  I wouldnt want her as my bridesmaid if it means that much to you. I think you should read the many bridesmaid threads and usually it is obvious from the beginning that the person should not be picked as a bridesmaid. I’m sorry her response wasnt what you wanted but think ahead….will she do anything you may want or expect from her?

Post # 10
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think you should either come to terms with the fact that you’re not going to have a bridal party, or discuss the issue again with your Fiance in hopes you can come up with a compromise.


Emotion can’t be expressed perfectly in text messages, so I could see myself replying the same way she did, with no ill intention. Also, pregnant women are just as absorbed into their own little world, if not more so, than women like us, who are engaged to be married. This is because we’re all insanely happy and excited for the life changes to come. She probably didn’t realize she put a damper on your mood by turning the conversation to herself, some people are just like that. 


Don’t let it get you down, though, enjoy the post-engagement happy glow and CONGRATULATIONS!

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