Post # 1
So my Boyfriend or Best Friend intends to ask his two best friends and two brothers-in-law to be groomsmen, which leaves me with a huge dilemma: I have no one to ask to be bridesmaids!!!
Well that’s not entirely true…. I’m one of the last of both my close high school (3 ladies) and college friends (4 ladies) to get married, and NONE of them has asked me to be in their weddings so far. NONE. Not even my oldest friend, one of the high school people who I’ve actually known/been friends with since second grade, asked me to be in her wedding (which is next month), so I’m especially bummed about that because I was planning to ask her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I mean, I’ve made other friends along the way since moving to NYC, but there’s only one person in particular who I’d really consider asking to be in the wedding party. But 3 other people?!?!? I kinda suspected this would happen so I didn’t really want to have a wedding party to begin with, and if I had to have someone in a wedding party, I really only wanted a Maid/Matron of Honor. Fiance does have two sisters, whom I’d glady ask, but both of them will have very young kids (by the time we get married, one will about 2 and a half, and other will a year and change, so this may prove difficult if their husbands are also in the wedding party…) Any advice?
Post # 3
I dont think you have to have even numbers… Why dont you mix it. He has his groomsmen and you choose a Maid/Matron of Honor. and they can stand on either side, doesnt have to be boys/girls. Also you should talk to your FH hubby about and approach him with your dilemma. Im sure he would be cool with it.
Or you dont even have to have a Maid/Matron of Honor.. just have the groomsmen on either side you and your FH. That could work!
Post # 4
I would ask his sisters. I asked my sister, M’s sister, my cousin and best friend since I moved here. His sister’s would probably be sooo honored!! Do they have sons or daughters, perhaps the kids could be in the bridal party?
Post # 5
I would probably ask his sisters too and go ahead and ask your friend. I’m sure she had her resons for keeping her bridal party as she did.. Maybe they’re going with a small family only wedding party. Its hard to speculate on why other people make their choices.
Post # 6
I’d ask his sisters too, if they feel like they aren’t able to do it then they will tell you so. But either way I’m sure they’d be honoured! Ask whoever you like, regardless of whether they have asked you or how long you’ve known them – you never know why someone has made the choices they have. It’s totally ok to have an uneven bridal party too, the important thing is having the right people up there with you 🙂
Post # 7
thnks girls! it’s not the even or unevenness i’m concerned about – i feel like it would just make me look bad if my Fiance has 4 people on his side and i have none 🙁
i think i’ll ask his sisters anyway. i love them both! the 2 and a half year old would make a fabulous flower girl…but a year and change may be a bit too young for a wedding party…