(Closed) Not sure what to do about bm

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Seriously 3 years without seeing her both your lives would have moved on and you both may not be the same people, I believe, even if not face to face, regular contact needs to be maintained to stay “friends” … I don’t know if I could deal with such an unreliable friend as Bridesmaid or Best Man either, I don’t expect anything from my BMs except for them to turn up in a dress and to reply to my occasional update emails (about hair etc) which they do within a week usually. It is not selfish for you to expect responses from a friend without having to chase them all the time, it takes 2 to maintain a relationship.

Post # 4
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2273 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe ask her to do a reading or something instead if you decide not to keep her in the Bridesmaid or Best Man role because if she DOESN’T turn up at least that role can be replaced last minute by a helpful guest… Just an idea…

Could you have a family only bridal party so she wouldn’t be offended? 

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