Post # 1
So…my mom rushed me into dress shopping and this was the only dress I tried on…and she bought it by winning a credit card sword fight with me. While I’m pleased with the bottom portion (will need to be hemmed of course) I don’t know what to feel about the top. I imagined a sweetheart neckline with illusion long sleeves and back (not strapless). With a heavily beaded top, would it be impossible to add a sweetheart neckline? Has anyone had success changing the neckline shape?
I’m also reading sources that fit and flares weren’t made for stick straight bodies and not sure if I have the curves to pull this off. Will wearing a waist-trainer or some other undergarment work?
I hate the irrational ‘dress regret’ stage that many of us seem to have at the moment, but it’s even worse when you’re with a family member. My mom was never involved with my sister’s wedding plans whatsoever, but I understand her wanting to at least be part of the dress fitting as she’ll be fresh out of daughters after my wedding.
Post # 2
You probably jumped the gun but I don’t know anyone who is completely happy with their dress. I think we all go through some stage of dress regret too.
“I’m also reading sources that fit and flares weren’t made for stick straight bodies”
Ugh. Articles also don’t account for details like torso length, height, personality…do you love the dress?
Post # 3
First – the dress looks amazing on your body. You’ll read all sorts of dumb rules about who can what what dress but they are ridiculous!
Personally, I think the neckline looks lovely on you but I think changing the neckline to a sweetheart is fairly common.
I also bought a dress that was completly different than what I had envisioned. I’ll admit that I still think I should have gotten something different but ultimatly I looked great in my dress (as you do in yours) and my husband absolutly loved it so there’s nothing to regret!
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2016 - Historical park
I think your dress looks beautiful on you! However, you should also be happy with your dress at the end of the day. Can you talk to your mom about potentially exchanging your dress? It looks like you got it from DB. I know that Mrs. Black Cat had dress regret and they let her exchange her dress for a new one. It may be worth looking into if you’re truly not happy with your gown. You could also maybe get a topper to get the illusion neckline you’d like?
Post # 5
Your figure looks fantastic in that dress so don’t second-guess the shape for even a second! I agree with pp that the neckline looks nice as it is, but it probably would not be a huge ordeal to make it a more defined sweetheart.
Post # 6
Personally I think you look great as is and “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it”, so I wouldn’t change it.
Post # 7
You’re right, a lot of these silly articles leave out important data that really depends on the individual. And yes, as this dress wasn’t what I imagined, it has a lot going for me that I like in a dress (lace, beadwork, chiffon, train length, etc).
Some of the rules are dumb! Most of them said I had to get an A line gown because they are universally flattering, but I never saw myself in one. My sister had an A line gown and I didn’t want to look exactly like her. On second note, I really like the neckline on yours! No wonder your man loved it.
Mrs. Horseshoe :
As much as I want to alter it, I don’t feel comfortable exchanging it either.
“You could also maybe get a topper to get the illusion neckline you’d like”
Ooo! This is an excellent idea!! I’ll have to search around to see which toppers compliment the dress/lace. It’ll be great to wear that for the ceremony and then take it off for reception to change up the look.
Aww! Thanks!! Maybe I can grow to like the neckline.
Post # 8
I think that dress is beautiful on you! I’m assuming from the fit that you’re petite/have a small torso. I tried on the same dress but it was in no way a fit and flare. On me it was an A line dress and wasnt quite what i was looking for. But let me reiterate that i think it looks stunning on you.
Post # 9
It’s so flattering, your body looks fabulous in it.
Post # 10
I think it looks wonderful on you!! If you want to change the neckline to a sweetheart, I’m sure you can. That’s a pretty common alteration. Also, if you like, you could look into a bolero, but I don’t think it needs one. Personal choice!
It really does look amazing as is!
Post # 11
I think the dress looks beautiful on you and you should definitely talk to a seamstress about the cost of changing the neckline (it definitely is possible but I don’t know how much it’ll cost). I would leave the alterations to just that and don’t add any sleeves because I think there is so much going on with the dress (good things). Congrats bee!