- 11 years ago
This is a throw-a-way account. :
Here’s the deal:
I’m in a wedding soon, and the bride is starting to get very upset with the Maid/Matron of Honor (Let’s call her “L”). She’s not sure how to go about confronting L about things that are going on.
The reason that L is the Maid/Matron of Honor, is because they have a lot of history together and the bride felt like she needed to have L as the Maid/Matron of Honor.
L is going through a bit of a rough patch. (Relationship wise, job, etc.) However, L has ALWAYS, ALWAYS, been depressed about things and just constantly stuck in a rut, and it gets tiring trying to help her at times. Lately, it’s been getting worse and worse.
It’s not just the wedding, it’s everything. L is super dramatic about everything.
L contstantly is comparing her life to the bride’s, and saying how much her life is horrible, etc. It’s like she can’t be happy without being in a serious relationship, or being successful, or what have you. She’s very vocal about it.
It’s making the bride feel very, uh… put off, I guess would be the right to say it. L has been avoiding calls, or hanging out, and she isnt’ really stepping up to the plate, as it were. L also is the Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding 2 weeks before the bride’s, and she’s stepping up there more. (The bride thinks this is because L is more afraid of uspsetting this other person, and that L isn’t so worried about upsetting her since they’ve known each other so long. If that makes sense.)
The bride isn’t sure what to do about L. If she asks L to step down, she’s afraid that it’ll just make L spiral even more out of control. (Because L constantly is over analyzing everything and feels as though she’s a failure.) She’s also afraid that if she voices her concerns to L, that L won’t take that lightly either.
What’s really frustrating for the bride, is that all of us bridesmaids moved away recently, and that just leaves L there to help her with things. (I’m trying my best from where I am, but it’s still hard for her because she needs someone physically there WITH her for some things.)
She’s really in a hard spot right now, and could use some help. Both of us are at a loss as to what to do. (I’ve suggested telling L to seriously consider therapy, and possibly getting onto medication because she really has depression issues.)