- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Okay so I’m hairstylist and this is about a girl I know that we used to be friends through school, we haven’t been so close in a few years. she kind of just takes advantage of people I don’t know if she means it but it always seems to be something she does, another problem is her boyfriend he uses her all the time he’s a deadbeat he steals from her and he always leaves and when the money runs out he comes back to her and tries to live off of her, she always says he’s not going to be able to come back to her but in the end she she lets them come back because she gets lonely and they do have the one child together. I usually cut her hair and I usually try to make sure that she actually does have the money to pay me otherwise she will put it off for months if she doesn’t. The problem is this time she wanted to bring him to my house and get his haircut too I don’t trust him in my house because he just always takes advantage of her and he’s willing to steal from her and he supposed to like her, and if he’s l willing to steal from her I don’t see why he wouldn’t try and steal from me when he’s in my home, I don’t know how to tell her but I don’t want him in my home so I tried to tell her I’d come to her house and cut his hair but she’s rescheduled several times since then and always tried to come back to coming into my house with him… I don’t know how to handle this without hurting her feelings
another problem I have is she hasn’t been asking about him so much anymore because she is used up I guess the money she was going to pay for the haircut with, but she keeps texting me at any time early in the morning late at night whatever waking me up and asking me what I can do her hair, I then tried to answer and she doesn’t get back to me in time and I’ve had to deal with my other appointments instead of being able to fit her in, and then the cycle starts again with the texting me earlier when I tell her not to, and I try again to work her in and she just does the same thing,
i’ve tried to tell her not to text me before certain time and she always seems to ignore this, i’ve also tried to ignore her and till a decent time, I was going to go there and cut her hair yesterday and she never got back to me to confirm that I could come over, this morning she basically admitted that if I had of come yesterday she wouldn’t of had any money for me even though she asked me to drive there and do haircuts, I think she admitted this because she thought that’s why I didn’t show up but I didn’t come over because she didn’t actually tell me she was going to be home
I try to be patient with her because we used to be friends pretty close in high school and public school and I know she does have a learning disability and I’ve tried to remember that but I think she’s kind of pushing limits her learning disability isn’t that bad my think she hides behind it as an excuse to get away with pulling crap on people, example just pretending she doesn’t understand that she’s hurting peoples feelings or taking advantage.
she seems to have changed for the worse since she is started to date this man and she has always been A little selfish herself, you wouldn’t hear from her until she needed somebody to go out with if she couldn’t find anybody to go and she wanted to go she’d give you a call, and if you went that be fine and if you didn’t you wouldn’t hear from her for anything else until she wanted something again.
Don’t know if this is a rant for just hoping that you bees have some advice on how to handle her with out really hurting her feelings or if I should even worry about that ,