- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
So I’ve posted this before but I’m just so frustrated now. I’ve always had a small budget for my wedding. In the beginning I thought my budget would be about 5,000 and I looked into a few options outside of my town because my town is super expensive. Now my budget is looking more like 3,000 due to emergency surgeries for my parents (both were simple in out procedures (my fathers isnt done yet though) and nothing life threating but had to be done. I’m not complaining their health comes first!) and they want to give us a small nest egg but towards a home vs a wedding. So while their helping they’d rather the money go towards a home then a party. (I agree with this.)
Because I wanted a church wedding (& reconverted back to Catholicism) I put off searching seriously because my local diocese wants to wait till 6 months before the wedding date. They have given me little to no help and I don’t even know how much of a donation is required.
So originally I fell in love with a Catholic Church in Tampa named The Sacred Heart, it’s from 1906 and is absolutely stunning! For non-parishioners it is 1,500 just to use the church. (I’m sure there’s additional fees for an organist etc) but I have yet to find an affordable reception location and it being two hours away and would require travel and hotels on top of it all, everyone has told me it isn’t the best descion. So I’ve reluctantly given up on it.
So option two was an hour away, the Charlotte Harbor Yacht Club. I could have my ceremony there for free, the venue is a fee of 550, plus food which last I was there was 23 per person. The location is elegant and fit at least my requirements of I don’t want a beach wedding (nothing wrong with that I’ve just lived in Florida all my life and wanted something less Florida) or no country club. I don’t want golf courses and palm trees in my pics. It meant I just had to worry about decorating and Dj for the most part. Most everything else was inclusive so I thought this was perfect. So I’ve been trying to get a hold of the wedding planner and they told me to get back in two weeks because their updating their menus. (I’m really hoping not their prices!) I get this email today:
“Good morning, I know with the busy weddings,holiday, and our annual club closure she has been exceptionally busy and did not forget you. At the moment we are in the process of building a new wedding packet with some exciting menu changes. I believe this package is almost complete and will be ready when we reopen on the 9th of August. I will have her contact you as soon as possible for our timeline. Hope this helps in some way and we look forward to having you event here at CHYC. Enjoy your day.”
I feel like the longer I wait the less time I will have to plan for decorations and such because I haven’t chosen colors because I wanted to know what my venue looks like to finalize the colors.
Option number 3 is going to my old Lutheran church that I was a member of for about 5 years. It’s the closet and would allow my church wedding and they would allow us to rent their fellowship hall for the reception. I don’t have prices because the pastor is on vacation but I should be able to get ahold of him next week. This I think would be most cost effective BUT I fear that once you add in catering, decorations etc it will end up the same as say the yacht club?
So what would you do? I’m so frustrated and feel like I’m loosing time for the important things. It seems like everyone else ok ow has gotten engaged after us and already have dates and thus leaving me pigeon holed to move the date if we need too. And I would do a park ceremony but our parks are boring and have nothing visually interesting plus catering and stuff will probably be expensive too.
I’m looking at a 100 guests give or take. I would do a smaller more intimate wedding but have no idea how to cull the guest list without offending family. I’ve gotten to the point that eloping sounds wonderful and stress free BUT I want my father to walk me down the isle, I want our first dance and father/daughter dance. So I feel so so stuck. I don’t know what to do any more! Suggestions?? Please help!