(Closed) Not sure what to do – need feedback/opinions

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would keep it completely separate – just plan a party that you want people to come to to help you celebrate and don’t mention the rest.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hm.. How many people are you inviting to the party? I ask because I am wondering if inviting those people to your ceremony would really make it much less intimate..

I am having a small ceremony with immediate family only and BFFs of course (about 15 people). Then later that night we are having a party with about 100 family and friends. Our invites will say join us for our reception so that there are no questions about it.

At first I felt a little awkward inviting people to the reception only and not the actual ceremony but I don’t anymore. The people I care about being there for the actual vows will be there. Most people care more about the reception than the ceremony anyway. However, I couldn’t say I do without my parents and siblings present.. And they wouldn’t be too happy about it either.

It’s really up to you and what you and Fiance want. If you want it to just be the two of you, the do that. Think about yourselves in the future, looking back on your wedding day. would you be happy if you didn’t invite anyone to your ceremony? If not, then who would you definitely want there and who can you do without?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

To be honest, if I had to travel that far, I would be a little upset about not being invited to the ceremony. That being said, for a really close friend, I would DEFINITELY travel that far just to party and celebrate with them and I would still enjoy myself and be very happy for the couple.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

A lot of people dont go to separate ceremonies anyway….atleast not here in the NJ/NY area so I think it will be okay.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I don’t generally find any kind of invitation to be tacky…wedding related or not, it’s just an invitaiton, not a summons.

Are your friends the type to regularly travel that far for a night of partying? I know I am not…so I personally wouldn’t go that far just to go to a club, even if we are very close. It’s just not ‘worth it’ to me, financially.  I think that’s what it comes down to…what your friends are like, and how they usually deal with traveling and nights out. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

@CocoClassic:  If I have to travel that far just for a party, most likely, I won’t come. But if there is a sit down dinner or some sort, then yes I will come.

Post # 11
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Newbee

I think it will be okay.

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