(Closed) Not sure what to do. Need serious pet advice :'( (long)

posted 5 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Is Oliver neutered?

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this. This is such a hard situation to be stuck in. It may be best to rehome the puppy. Oliver may be best as an only dog (Corgis are notoriously stubborn), and it’s not fair to him to have to deal with a puppy, nor is it fair to the puppy to get bitten and now have to live outside. 

Never EVER stick your face close to an angry dog. I am shocked that your husband did this, and that he didn’t think he’d get bit doing so. That is NOT the way you break up fighting dogs, nor how you punish a dog. 

This is NOT your fault. Like I said, Corgis are very headstrong. Could you have prevented it? I doubt it. Dogs have personalities just like people, and it’s very clear that Oliver does not like this puppy–that’s not your fault at all.

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Some dog rescues will only let a family adopt a dog if this will be their only dog. Why? Because they have seen the dog does not do well with other animals. Even after being fixed, and lots of training.

Sometimes dogs can get along with other dogs, but the other dog needs to have a calm personality. Puppies are really active, and high strung.

I am really sorry you are going through this. Remind your husband it is NOT the dog’s fault that he got bit. Your husband should have NEVER stuck his face in the dog’s yelling. ESP. while the dog was angry!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

No, it’s not your fault. You didn’t create a monster. Oliver is not a monster. Some dogs are just meant to be only pets.

I don’t really know what to tell you. It’s not fair to the new puppy to constantly be attacked or be forced to live outside. I think you should talk to the breeder or rescue group where you got the puppy and try to make arrangements to find the puppy a new home. Even though Oliver is the naughty one in the relationship, he was first and it would be more traumatic for him to acclimate to a new home than it would be for the puppy.

It sucks for your husband but you – and he, by marrying you – made a commitment to the dog you had first.

ETA: I also am not sure what your behaviorist is thinking, telling you that you need to assert yourself as a leader by, like, acting like a dog and showing you’re alpha that way. You guys aren’t dogs or members of Oliver’s pack, you’re his people. You show your dominance by setting boundaries (going through the always-torturous “nothing’s free” stage) and holding your ground when the dog is trying to steamroll you (trying to beat you to the door, sniff/beg at your plate, etc.).

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@vorpalette:  +1 Some dogs are just better in a 1-dog family. That doesn’t mean he is a bad dog, or you are a bad owner. It just means you understand your dog’s needs and personality, and respect them. 

If you plan to have multiple dogs, I personally think you should always choose a breed known for sociability. Growing up, I always had goldens / labs 3-4 at a time. Corgis are awesome, but I don’t think they’re the same way.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I am sorry to hear what you have gone through. This is very enlightening though. I also have a Pembroke Welsh Corgi who is 7 months old. We are hoping to get another one in 2 years or so. Bacon is very stubborn but very much a whimp. We are getting him exposed to as many dogs as possible as young as possible. He took him to the dog park yesterday and he spent most of the time sniffing other dog’s butts and watching them. Hopefully he will take well to our next corgi.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

not all dogs do well with other dogs (even though he was fine with a dog in the past). you guys need to find another home for the puppy. a breeder would take it back as well as a rescue group. i wouldn’t take it back to a shelter though. at least find a rescue that could take it. you probably should’ve gotten an older dog instead of a puppy because an older dog might read oliver’s signs better than a puppy (but at this point, do not get another dog). i’m sorry you’re dealing with this but it’s not fair to either dog (puppy being forced to stay outside & oliver not happy having another dog around). also, NEVER put your face close to a dog during a dog fight.

there’s nothing wrong with oliver. he just doesn’t like other dogs. my mom’s dog is dog aggressive and always will be. that’s why she only has 1 dog.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ugh, I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this.  Our newest addition is a 1yr old that isn’t the best at getting along with new dogs (she’s fairly dominant and a bit of a rough houser) and we think it’s partly because she wasn’t exposed to all different kinds of dogs by her original owners. She’s also super possessive of my husband and me and seems to try to protect us from any other dog we see. We’ve been trying to expose her to as many different animals as possible to get her used to them. Group training classes as opposed to private ones, taking her to Petsmart every weekend to walk around, taking lots of walks around the neighborhood, etc. It seems to be working, she’s already calming down around other dogs MUCH quicker than she did at first and she and our other dog are perfectly fine together now. But at some point, you may have to accept that those dogs just aren’t meant to get along.

@vorpalette:  This. Never get in the dog’s face to break up a fight. If the dog is already worked up, it’s WAY too easy for them to transfer that aggression right over to you. If that’s what the private trainer is telling you to do, find a new trainer!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@MrsWishyWashy: I would rehome the puppy ASAP. Every time you let Oliver outside you’ll risk him attacking the puppy. And an outside only life is no good life for a puppy. Plus being beat up repeatedly by Oliver may affect the puppy’s interaction with other dogs. The puppy might learn very bad traits from being attacked so much & become aggressive himself. It sounds like Oliver needs to be your only dog.

ETA: One day the puppy will get in or Oliver will get out. Do you ever have people over who might not be as careful with seperating your dogs? Do you ever go on an overnight vacation & someone would need to watch your dogs? It would be too hard to keep two dogs when one attacks the other.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My older dog is like this with other dogs besides the one she grew up with.  She just got old and onery and I generally do not let her around other dogs anymore because of it.  The difference in age is too great — the dog and your puppy are incompatible.  It’s almost like human beings.  I would try to rehome your puppy 🙁

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@MrsWishyWashy:  i’m sorry but your husband needs a reality check. he needs to see what he’s doing to that puppy. it is absolutely mean to force the puppy to live outside just because your husband doesn’t want to admit the situation isn’t working. he’s being selfish by being stubborn. that puppy deserves to be in a household where it can be safe and protected and unfortunately, that household is not yours. i know you understand that so i’m not trying to sound harsh towards you. it’s your husband that needs to wake up.

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