(Closed) Not sure what to do or think about this?

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think that if you’re both truly ready for you to conceive on your honeymoon then go for it. 

Can you honestly say that you’re just a little excited at the prospect though, or are you now hoping that you’ll conceive? Because once you switch on that baby-making switch it can be difficult to switch off. You sound very excited, which is perfectly natural and acceptable. But say you don’t conceive; are you ready to return to BC afterwards – is that the plan? Because that could mess with your head. Your honeymoon could also become a time when in your head it’s prime baby-making time and then you’ll be distracted from enjoying everything else.

If your plan is to just come off of BC completely once you’re married and until you conceive then it really doesn’t make any difference WHEN you conceive. It’s quite a slim chance straight after coming off of BC and you may not even be ovulating.

Those are just my immediate thoughts though and I don’t know you two. I wish you both a very happy wedding, honeymoon, and marriage!!

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The implant doesn’t quit working on one particular date.

The recommende change date errs on the side of caution, but it can maintain its’ effeciveness long after. Talk with your pharmacist.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think what your insurance is doing is ridiculous! Has your doctor called them to ask for an exception? I had a similar experience once and my doctors office was able to call the insurance and work it out. 

Also maybe ask your doctor what they think? Maybe the expiration date is a guideline but really it’s good for longer than that? Just an idea. 

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

The insurance thing sounds shady AF but I definitely have plenty of experience with insurance trying to fuck me over, so in a way it’s not surprising. (Dh was recently hospitalized to the tune of $20k, and our insurance is claiming his stay was “not medically necessary” even though the doctors literally told us if we left early it would be “against medical advice” and our insurance may not cover it lol…talk about a catch 22.)

ANYWAY…if your husband doesn’t want kids right now you need to respect that and you both need to find another method of contraception for the period of time in which you won’t be on BC. Getting pregnant for no other reason than your husband hates condoms sounds like a really bad idea honestly. There are many options for contraception. My husband hates condoms too…so we’ve been using withdrawal since I went off the pill. I know it’s not the most reliable, but it’s definitely more reliable than letting him finish inside of you. And if you’re both theoretically ok with the idea of a pregnancy, it might not be the worst solution for you.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Call your OB and ask what it would cost if you paid out of pocket to have it removed.

But I highly highly doubt it’s just going to stop working on that exact day. You’d probably be fine. I’m sure they underestimate the effectiveness a bit so people aren’t getting surprises.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I’d definitely talk to your doctor about this – I don’t know much about this type of birth control but if jules1949’s explanation is correct then you may have nothing to worry (or get excited) about anyhow. 

If you talk to your doctor and they think you’d be risking pregnancy, then you might want to consider taking prenatal vitamins. Also, if you were planning to have the implant replaced on your return, how would that go down assuming there’s a chance you’d be pregnant? Would you wait until your next cycle to start? These are questions I’d want to talk to a physician about. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

Even if it did expire the exact day of the 16th, it doesn’t mean you’ll ovulate on your honeymoon.

Post # 9
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632 posts
Busy bee

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bnm97 :  If your husband isn’t ready for a child, unprotected sex isn’t something to be excited about.  There are a myriad of contraception options besides male condoms that you can use–spermicide, diaphragm, pull out method, etc.  I would also call your dr and see if an exception can be made to remove your implant earlier or see what the cash price is to have it removed there or planned parenthood.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

So what’s the plan, come back and have your nexplanon replaced or just removed? 
I don’t think you and your husband sound like you’re on the same page as far as TTC/having a child timeline, where you’re now excited to have unprotected sex and hopefully get pregnant, and he’d basically deal with it. 

Also, as others have said it’s more likely they want your birth control removed before it loses effectiveness, not clock strikes midnight and all of the sudden it’s ineffective now. And even when it does lose it’s effectiveness or you come off it entirely, there’s no telling how long it may take you to ovulate. 

Post # 11
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

If he doesn’t want to wear condoms, you might pop a baby, and he better help change the diapers. 

Post # 12
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6952 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Is the plan to go back on BC after the honeymoon?

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