(Closed) Not sure what to do- very good friend is getting married

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would not participate in the wedding. Be honest and tell her how excited you are about her upcoming nuptials but because you were not aware of the wedding date, you accepted her request in a hastily manner. I think she will understand. It’s better to tell her now rather than wait.

Post # 4
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@sheepandbear:  You really can’t take a few days off between her wedding and Thanksgiving? (Sorry if I sound rude) I don’t know how much time you get off from work, and what the rules are, but if it were me I would just make a weeks vacation out of her wedding and Thanksgiving, especially with only seeing my parents once a year.

If it’s really non-negotiable for you with taking time off, I think it’s understandable that you would want to see your parents. I actually think it’s kind of rude that your friend expects all this stuff of you but hasn’t decided if you’ll be a bridesmaid yet. But since she has these expectations, you should let her know ASAP if you can’t be there so she can plan accordingly. If she is a good friend, she’ll probably be disappointed for a while but she’ll understand why it is the way it is. 

Post # 5
46673 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Could you leave after work on Thursday, drive half way and stay at a motel overnight? That way you would arrive about noon the next day and have all afternoon and evening to spend with your parents.

Is it possible to fly to your hometown saving many hours of travel time?


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