(Closed) Not sure what to do…advice please!

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@mrs.folks:  I have a 3.5 year old from a previous relationship and met Darling Husband when my son was a few months old. DS is a hand full he has ADHD and is one crazy little boy. We went back and forth on when to start TTC after getting married. We decided to just go for it because when LO is born DS will be almost 4 (I’m due in Oct and DS’s bday is in Nov) so hopefully he is a little more “mature” by then. If not oh well we can handle it DS LOVES babies (I do daycare so he is used to sharing me with other kids) and is very excited about his new little brother or sister (we are team green). Also a huge factor in our decision is DH’s age he is 39. I do not regret the decision to TTC at all and I think 4 years will be a perfect gap for DS and our new LO.

Post # 4
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1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My mom has a great opinion on this….either have them close together (2 years) or far enough apart (4+ years.)  She said the later option is so that you don’t remember how rough 2-4 yo’s can be.  My sister and I are 7 years apart….it also helps when you can have the first born help out. 

Since I’m still TTC #1 and I’m 36, I DO NOT plan on waiting a certain number of months or years for #2 but that’s just me. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I really wonder if I’m going to feel this way 🙂 Darling Husband and I have our first due in a few weeks, and we had planned on TTCing again when our baby is 9 months-1 year. I think we might be surprised at the amount of energy one takes up though and that 1 year may turn into several! 🙂 Interested to see what other moms have to say!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mrs.folks:  I am in the same boat sort of. I have two daughters, 18 and 11 from my previous marraige. He has no children and wants one. I am scared to death to start over and feel old. lol I am 35 so the clock is ticking. 

I am going to take the plunge because I adore my husband and I know that once I ma prego I will be in love with the new life inside me.  I forget that I will be doing this with a real responsbile man this time.  That eases my mind a bit.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

MY babys almost 1 and we plan to have another one when shes 3, i think the closer in age the better BUT they are a hassle lol. I tell Fiance once i hit 25 no more kids.

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