Post # 1
I’ve been working at this company for a little over a year and by the time my baby is born it will be year and a half. It’s a small company with about 50 employees and there is no HR person or department.
I am pregnant and struggling with insomnia and my commute doesn’t help the situation. I asked my manager if I could work at home once a week and he said no. Naturally, I am not impressed with the situation. I’m a software developer so there’s no reason for me not to work at home. I’ve worked in other places that allowed me to work at home once per week no questions asked.
I recently discovered that another male coworker has been working at home pretty much whenever he feels like it. He’s taking a part time course that’s not related to the company. He’s got a different supervisor than I do but it’s a small enough team that everyone can notice how often he is away.
I’m really not happy about this. I often wake up at 2am, cannot sleep until 4 or 5 then I have to get up at 6:30 for work 🙁
Also, there was another woman who went on maternity leave in May who got a lunch and flowers from the CTO before she went on leave. I recently found out that they are not going to plan a lunch for me.
My boss has also said things in relation to me going on mat leave such as: ‘this is a really tricky situation for us’ , he had doubts about me coming back, and complained that I only have him 3 months notice when the company policy says 4 weeks is needed for mat leave. He also used ‘what HIS wife did’ as a basis as to what to think about how I’m going to manage my leave.
I am not sure what to think about the situation or how to address the issues.
I’ve only got a couple of weeks to go before I go on leave but I’m not happy about this.
Post # 2
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My initial reaction is that you should possibly be seeing a doctor about your insomnia, not asking your workplace to accomodate you? I don’t think it was a bad idea to ask, but since they said no, that seems like the next step.
Post # 3
It’s pretty crappy that your employer isn’t willing to give you some flexibility but at this point there’s not much you can do. take your maternity leave and take as much as you are allowed. And maybe start looking for jobs while you’re off or after you get back to work. Because your boss doesn’t sound like a good manager. Check out the ask a manager blog for resume tips!
Post # 4
How long have you worked for the company? That’s too bad that they said no, but honestly it’s not their problem, they don’t have to be accomodating.
I work in a larger company (400 ish employees) and techincally no one is supposed to work from home per policy, but several people do a few days a week because their manager allows it. I’ve been allowed to occasionally under certain circumstances and I wish I could do it more often but I understand it’s my managers call and he prefers me in the office even though I can 100% do my job from home, there’s no reason for me to be here.
Post # 5
how have your performance reviews been prior to pregnancy? If they’ve been so-so they might just be trying to encourage you to move on. But if they’ve been stellar then I’d go to HR and ask for a reasonable accomodation which is being offered to other employees in the same position but not to you. Don’t bring up the lunch thing though.
Post # 6
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Have you talked to your doctor about the work situation? I am also pregnant and have had to request accommodations a couple times throughout to adjust my hours/work from home, and my doctor very happily provided me a note to take back to my workplace. If you can get that and have an HR department, I’d go there to discuss.
An even more aggressive step if your doctor agrees would be filing for short term disability related to pregnancy (which is what happens if you have medically-ordered bedrest, for example) so that you can start your leave earlier.
I totally feel for you (pregnancy is brutal while commuting/working full time!) and hope you can get some relief soon. Hang in there!
Post # 7
LilliV : kellykapoor :
OP stated that her company has no HR dept. this is obviously part of the problem.
OP, there’s not much you can do aside from talking to your doctor to see if you can get a note from him to request accommodations. even if you do this, though, they might not have to honor it – you say it’s a small company. i know there are different legal requirements for companies to honor disability depending on the number of employees. it may be that your company is small enough that they don’t have to.
either way, start documenting all of your requests and the responses, as well as any remarks made by your supervisor – if they try to fire you (which it sounds like they might be trying to do), you could have a wrongfl termination suit on your hands.
otherwise, i think you have nothing you can do right now except to wait it out until your leave, and then try to find a new job while you’re on leave. the company you’re working for right now does not sound like a good fit for you. so you should look for something else.
and as far as the whole lunch thing – let it go. it sucks, but is not something that you actually can hold over them at all.
Post # 8
I guess make sure there’s an HR department at your next company – but I get that saying that is not helpful at all right now.
I agree with the PP who said the next step would be to see a doctor. Not sure what your commute is but if you’re driving I’m certain a doctor can help you get some sick leave at the very least as that’s a hazardous state to be in (speaking as a fellow insomnia sufferer). Your boss is being a real D and putting the business needs ahead of your own health and safety.
Post # 9
with 50 employees they have to make reasonable accomodations for pregnancy. Typically that’s such things as extra bathroom breaks without a doctor’s note, but where the accomodation is made for another employee who isn’t pregnant I suspect there might be other factors at play here.
Post # 10
from what I’ve read, 50 employees is the minimum number needed in order to have to make reasonable accommodations and grant maternity leave (under FMLA). i guess the question is whether the company actually has exactly 50 employees, or if OP was estimating in that figure. because if it only has 49…
Post # 11
I got one review and a 5% raise before telling my boss that I was pregnant.
Post # 12
and did you boss then treat you badly? I’m confused…
Post # 13
Your boss sounds like an inconsiderate f*ck head with a stick up his ass asking for a lawsuit.
I would personally go to my Doctor and get a note AND start looking for a new job with less sexist douchebags that work there.
Good luck to you.
Post # 14
Make sure you have communications on the record in the case that they let you go and you need to take legal action.
Post # 15
I told him a few weeks after the annual review that I was pregnant. He was initially happy and then a week later he was saying those comments.