(Closed) Not sure what to think about what my friend wants to wear to the wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do?
    Let her wear it and stay silent on the matter : (100 votes)
    24 %
    Be honest and tell her its too ridiculous : (310 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Noo effing way!… I would flat out say that you don’t think it’s the best idea for her to wear that. :/ I don’t know why she would wear that to a wedding…

    Post # 18
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    7646 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  I guess then the only thing you can say is that her choice of dress will be very out of aplace but you support her in the decision. I know you don’t want her to feel stupid, but what can you do?

    Kind of on topic I remember in high school my friend and I would go to the movies, and it was in a small town. I would dress in jeans and a sweater…she would dress in full makeup, high heeled knee high black boots with a mini skirt and tube top in the fall…I kept thinking I was way too underdressed, but very quickly learned that all the eyes that were on her were not positive. No matter how many times I tried to tell her that she didn’t have to dress up, she would say she was dressing to impress. Nothing further I could have done to prevent my friend from negative attention.

    Post # 19
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    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  is today “Joke About Inappropriate Dresses” Day and I don’t know it? This is the second thread where I have to believe the suggested dresses are a joke because they are just beyond inappropriate. She wants to dress as a tardis to your wedding? What?! 

    I have no idea what you should do. If she’s a close friend I would just tell her she can’t wear that because it is a costume. It’s insane that she even thinks this is appropriate. Maybe give her a role (like a reading or an usher) and ask her to wear the same color as the bridesmaids?

    Post # 21
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    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    If you’re not worried about her stealing attention off from you, I’d let her wear it. It seems that that is just her personality, and she means no harm. She’s payed to have it made for her, I wouldn’t want to tell her not to wear it. I’m sure she’s probably aware she might get some strange looks.

    Post # 22
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    3683 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    That would be fine for ComicCon, but not someone’s wedding!

    I’m a huge Doctor Who fan and had small Doctor Who elements in my wedding (like TARDIS cuff links for DH).  But anyone who would even think of wearing that as a guest to a regular wedding is an idiot and attention whore.  

    Post # 24
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    734 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2007

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  It’s a neat dress, but it’s not a neat dress for a guest to wear to someone else’s wedding. I’d be incredibly angry if someone tried to do this at my wedding.

    I would’ve told her she couldn’t wear it to my wedding, and if she still wanted to- well, then, I would uninvite her.

    Post # 27
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    5009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  “Its literally a carbon copy of the dresses they wear on the show Dr. Who.  I  feel like all eyes will be on HER, and not in a good way.”

    Whilst I utterly agree with you that the dress is ludicrously inappropriate, can I just point out that no one on Doctor Who has ever worn a dress like that.

    Slutty policewoman? Yup.
    Madame de Pompadour? Sure

    Even the TARDIS in human form didn’t wear a dress like that!

    Post # 28
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    12478 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I think you handled this just right.  She’s an adult who can make decisions about how to dress herself.  But since she asked you for your  honest opinion, IMO you are justified to  give it to her. I’d tell her that it’s not my taste.

    As for spending $500 dollars on a dress, that’s her business and her budget.   

    Post # 29
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    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  is she a Doctor Who fan or does she just think its ok because your dad is British? Because I would assume she’s just using your wedding as her excuse to pay too much money for a cosplay outfit she wanted anyway. I would seriously have no qualms about telling her she can’t wear this

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