(Closed) Not sure where to post, but my heart is broken.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Umm… your cousin and your aunt sound like jerks to me.  I cannot believe that someone would do that to another family member.  I’m sorry.  I don’t really have any advice, except *HUGS*!

Post # 5
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1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry for your situation. That’s terrible that someone misspoke about your date and now all this has happened. You could always elope? I have no really good suggestions but I offer a shoulder to virtually cry on.

Post # 6
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1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

oh I am so sorry. I am not even sure what to say.

(((hugs))))

Post # 7
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3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ugh, that is no good.  Is there really no way you would consider rescheduling?  What if one of you did the wedding on Saturday and the other on Friday or Sunday?  That way all the Out of Town guests only have to come in for one weekend and its just a big celebration.

Post # 8
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

That’s so awful, I can hardly imagine the heartbreak of hearing that your own family members will be split between your wedding and another. It seems like this situation could benefit from a great deal more open communication. Perhaps if you spoke directly with your cousin, in a calm and loving manner, to try to get her to understand what she has done to you? Mothers might be able to intercede here, if your mom (or dad) could have a conversation with hers. If it comes to it, perhaps you could shift the time of your wedding by a few hours in the gracious hope that people would be able to make it to both. Though of course you shouldn’t have to, but it might be better to be the bigger woman in this case than to have to divide everyone.

Post # 10
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) I probably would one up her and have the wedding the day before her 😀  isn’t that spiteful, but I’m just saying 😉

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That totally sucks.

If I was your friend, but not your Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would not be offended if you asked me to step in. You went with family first, which I entirely understand, but family bailed, so now you are turning to your chosen family. I’m not a fan of the giant bridal party myself, so I wouldn’t be upset at all that I wasn’t initially asked.

Post # 12
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Aww I’m so sorry! Whatever you end up doing, don’t let them make you feel like your wedding is less important than hers just because it happens to be your second marriage. That’s really unacceptable for anyone to have said and it’s SO NOT TRUE! I don’t really have any good advice but just wanted to chime in with some (((HUGS))) and support.

Post # 13
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1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wow, that is just terrible! I would be so mad if I were in your situation. That is extremely rude and very selfish of both your cousin and your aunt. I can’t believe that your cousin would not even ask you to double check the date before she went ahead and booked her stuff. That is very rude. I guess if I were you I would try to talk to your cousin again and see what could be done to fix this situation. Clearly, it’s going to create a problem with mutual friends and family members, not to mention your bridal party.

Post # 15
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1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This sounds crazy.  Is there another family member who can step in to mediate in this situation?  Maybe a grandfather or grandmother who the adults and parents of this bratty girl will listen to?  Maybe someone who can cut her out of a will if she goes ahead with her plans? (I kid, I kid..)

This is a terrible situation, and I feel just awful for you.  I don’t even know what to tell you, because it doesn’t sound like your cousin cares one bit about your feelings or the fact that she just stole your wedding date.  My only advice would be to try to get the adults to reason with her.  Or try yourself.  I can’t believe that someone would be so heartless that they would want to cause this much family conflict, but then again… I don’t know your cousin.  Maybe she is that big of a brat.  

 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

that is extremely difficult and spiteful. if it were me, i’d keep moving and keep my chin up. maybe change the time if possible. this kind of stuff spreads like wildfire and i’m sure if family has to make a choice, they’ll make the right one.

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