Post # 1
So I’ve been moving things around my apartment in preparation for my wonderful Boyfriend or Best Friend to move in — mostly moving out of one closet completely so he can move his stuff in. This is all well and good. Let me say I moved into my apartment about a year and a half ago and had packed all of my stuff and moved it across state lines before that.
Alright, let me back up. Many many many years ago (we’re talking at this point 7 years ago) my first serious boyfriend gave me a promise ring. A very tiny sapphire set in white gold. I loved that ring but obviously when we broke up (and it was a very bad relationship — codependent, manipulative, and abusive), the ring was tucked away. This was when I was still in college. When I moved from college to graduate school the ring went missing…and I remember spending several hours searching high and low looking for it and never finding it. I wrote it off as a loss and moved on.
So as I was moving stuff out of one closet into another yesterday I saw a small silver ring on the floor. Thinking it was one of my earings I picked it up…and it was the promise ring! I have no idea where it came from. I’ve moved this stuff several times since it went missing so I have no idea why it showed up now. It made me feel very strange — here I am, moving in with my boyfriend, talking marriage and I find a ring from my first love (several serious boyfriends ago, too). I’m not religious but I do think things happen for a reason, so I’m just trying to understand what to make of this…
I don’t know, I am just somewhat weireded out by this…
Post # 3
I see the significance of look how far you’ve come and that you’re in such a better place now. Funny how those things work out.
Post # 4
That’s kind of a nice surprise! Quite obviously the ring was embarrassed being associated with douchy-boyfriend memories and took an extended vacation!
Maybe you can wear the ring now as a “fashion” ring if it doesn’t carry the emotional baggage with it that it once had?
Post # 5
@Anise I love that the ring was embarassed so it hid. 😉 Totally agree, think of it as a reminder of where you’ve come from but don’t dwell on it!
Post # 6
@google: I LOVE when life kinda throws in a hello from the past. 🙂 I think, if you give any meaning to it, consider it a reminder of where you’ve been and where you’re going. It sounds like this new SO is a a keeper…and your past relationship should remind of this fact.
Post # 6
I think it’s funny how it resurfaced at a point in your life where you really have moved on. I can understand that it could make you feel a little weird. I have a promise ring from a long relationship as well and even though our relationship didn’t end poorly I can’t bring myself to wear it. I probably will wear it again but I can see if you wouldn’t want to wear yours. How do you feel about keeping or wearing it?
Post # 7
@google: This is hilarious. This happened to me too! I had a promise ring and another ring I wore on my right hand. When we broke up (6 year HORRIBLE relationship…the works) I put them somewhere. Don’t remember where. When my boyfriend and I moved to another city together, I found them in this little baggy inside some really old purse! I was like WTF?? I totally got weirded out and didn’t know what to do with them at all lol. They are still sitting in the same spot I found them because I don’t want to throw them away because I could probably sell them…but…it was just strange. I didn’t find any “meaning” or purpose to them turning up I was just like…hm?!