(Closed) Not sure whether to be happy or frustrated

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

you should talk to your Fiance and tell him how you feel.  He probably really doesn’t care how you look cuz he loves you but if you need to hear it, let him know. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Girl, you must be attactive as h*ll if your man can stand you in sweats in public! πŸ™‚

But seriously, guys can be weird for this stuff, he probably meant to tell you that you’re always attractive, no matter what you wear – he needs to work on the wording! I agree you let him know you need to hear it from time to time!

Post # 5
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My FH does compliment me, but sometimes, if I spent extra time getting ready or whatever, I fish for compliments, in a silly way. I say something like “So…” and strike a cute pose or something. He gets my very obvious hint and says, “You look nice today, babe.”

So maybe you could talk to him about why its important and how you feel, and then if you feel like he isn’t doing it enough or starts to forget, start fishing! πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

Honey – he definitely finds you attractive, or he wouldn’t be with you.  It sounds like you would like some reassurance from him (who doesn’t want their SO to tell them they are hot) so I think you should express that as a need to him.  Tell him that it’s important for you to hear that he thinks you are beautiful from time to time and then drop it (meaning, don’t keep bringing it up).

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Oracle:  “then drop it” hahaha she’ll get great compliments if she does, lol !!

Ha, only messin. Yeah, def tell him it matters to you – maybe lead by example? Like, when he’s fresh washed and shaved, make a bit of a fuss, tell him he looks/smells nice? Might be worth a go!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

yep, that’s the kind of man you want!!!  after all, he’s gonna be seeing you sans makeup more often than not πŸ˜‰  and when you aren’t looking or feeling the best!!! 

I agree to let him know it’s important to hear the compliments every once in a while then drop the subject. 

My Fiance is like that (Except he’s always complimenting me! lol.  and I still blush frequently even after 8 years together!!!), so be happy that you don’t have to dress to the 9’s to make him happy πŸ˜‰ 

to me, that says he’s someone who will grow old beside you and will love you no matter what and not one of those guys who’ll drop you for someone “younger and prettier”.  (unfortunately, men DO do this…)

πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Guys don’t always say things in the most articulate ways, but he’s trying to pay you a compliment. I don’t think it seems like he doesn’t care at all; I think he’s trying to say you look amazing no matter what so it doesn’t matter to him what you do! πŸ™‚

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