- 5 years ago
Here is my dilemma:
My mother and stepfather got divorced about a year ago. He did NOT take the breakup well and is very emotionally unstable. Needless to say, he is not invited to my wedding.
My stepfather has a childhood friend I’ll call “Joe” who I spent a lot of time with growing up. I became very close to Joe’s daughter and son, but I’m especially close with his daughter, “Beth” who I’d like to invite to my wedding.
My problem is that my mother does NOT want Beth at the wedding- she thinks that if Beth tells Joe (we are not inviting Joe and his wife to the wedding) about the wedding, Joe will tell my stepfather and he will show up. Also, my mother is dating someone new and is afraid Beth will tell Joe and my stepfather will find out. She thinks I should just scrap my friendship with Beth, which I don’t really want to do.
I have told my mother that I’ll speak to Beth about the situation (She lives in another state and I haven’t seen her in about a year, so she may not be updated on what has happened) and explain how detrimental it would be if my stepfather found out about the wedding, but my mother is still nervous to invite her. I am actually not sure that Joe and my stepfather are even that close of friends anymore given my stepfather’s condition. My mother was actually supposed to speak to Joe about this entire situation, but “forgot”.
Anyhow, Beth is one of my oldest friends and I’d feel awful leaving her out of my wedding day. However, I also don’t want to make my mother’s life more difficult. Any ideas?