(Closed) Not sure who should walk me down the aisle…please help!

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Member
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t know if this helps you at all, but what about having your mom walk you down the aisle? My parents are divorced and I grew up with my mom and I had them both walk me down the aisle, and that worked great. 

Post # 4
Member
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You should have whoever you want to walk you down the aisle be the person who walks you down the aisle. It’s your day, do what makes you and not everyone else happy. That is a huge moment in your life and you deserve for it to be special to you, no matter what everyone else thinks.

Post # 5
Member
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I also would say either have your mom, or mom and step, if she could handle that. Otherwise I would have the person that has always been there, if that’s mom then be an untraditional bride and just have her. This would also take care of the problem with hurting one dad over another!

Post # 6
Member
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Blech, I really don’t like the idea that it’s only the father that walks the bride down the aisle. By the sounds of it, your mom deserves that chance too. I say you give it to her.

Post # 7
Member
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Sparkles85:  

Go with what your heart is telling you to do. It sounds to me like you know that you really want your step-father to walk you down the aisle but are just holding back to avoid hurting your mom. If you are close with your mom, chances are she will respect your decision and see that it is your wish to have him walk down the aisle. As for being afraid that the day is too “all about you,” I think that is what your wedding is suposed to be, about you and your new husband. 

Post # 8
Member
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Mom and Dad divorced a couple of years ago and my Mom asked who was going to walk me down the aisle. My Dad had already claimed that role for himself, and I know it would be trouble if I had them both do it so I had to tell my Mom that it would be my Dad. I knew she was very disappointed so after some thinking about it I’ve asked her to be my witness, who signs the paperwork. She is very happy about this.

 

It helps that we have no adult attendants (a whole other messy story so it was better to ask no one and just have a ringbearer and some FGs), but I think it wouldn’t look odd or weird if you had a Maid/Matron of Honor still but had your Mom do the signing. I can’t imagine a Maid/Matron of Honor being put out by that if they knew the background. Just an option, good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
Member
529 posts
Busy bee

@hotpinkbride:  Totally agree. You should do whatever you want. Maybe let your mum do a reading or something, but she should appreciate that it’s your day and not be adding to your stress by getting overly emotional about her involvement.

Post # 10
Member
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do what feels right to you and don’t worry about others feeling bad. I had my step dad walk me down. It was a very personal choice. Also my bio-dad wasn’t invited. I wish I knew how to help you with your mom, but I don’t ๐Ÿ™ Good luck!

The topic ‘Not sure who should walk me down the aisle…please help!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors