Not technically engaged, but I got this dress for free… What do you think??

posted 12 months ago in Dress
Post # 16
944 posts
Busy bee

I can picture one on your dress personally. Maybe one that has detail focused towards the center instead of a belt that’s all one thickness. Worth a shot by buying one that’s returnable and seeing how it looks with your dress! frogplus :  

Post # 17
55 posts
Worker bee

Yes, skip the waist band, add a really thin blingy belt and boom you are good to go! I think it’s the band in the waist that adds to the “dated” feel. Without it the dress looks quite timeless imho! 👌✨

Good luck! 😍💕

Post # 18
3042 posts
Sugar bee

frogplus :  

I respect that there are women who don’t feel comfortable spending what they personally consider too much money on a dress they won’t wear again. But, on the other hand, I believe that if there’s an occasion when a bit of extravagance is justified, it’s one’s own wedding. Regarding the dress you posted, though it’s a pretty dress, there’s no denying that it does look dated. If you favor “timeless and classic”, there are many alternatives in various styles that fit that description and that would not break your potential $500 budget; the dresses below, for example, are $250.00, $99.00 and $499. I would suggest you do look around, I’m sure you will find a lovely dress within your budget that will stand the test of time.

Post # 19
2690 posts
Sugar bee

It’s pretty, but looks dated. Like the wedding dresses from 10 years ago. And the pickup on the left (right side of your body) looks really high and out of place.

Post # 21
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

frogplus :  you should go try on a few different looks. You may conclude that this truly is the one, that you love it, it suits your venue…. Not just because it’s free. 

Post # 22
5556 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

You mention you were going for “timeless and classic” which imo is not this dress. 

If you aren’t fussed about the dress and are just happy to do it cheaply then go for it!

There’s no harm in dress shopping during the engagement though, shopping then will be much more special than finding something now and you don’t have to settle for the first thing you seem.

Post # 23
2825 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

frogplus :  I like it,  here it is in white without the hideous sash! post a pic of your champagne version *without* the sash…

Post # 24
2923 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I think it’s gorgeous and if you’re going to have some alterations done anyway, the professional doing that work would surely be able to make suggestions about small things that could be changed to make it a little more “modern” if that’s what you’re interested in. I mean, 10 years from their wedding days all brides’ dresses look “dated” so that isn’t anything I’d personally worry about, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting something fashion-forward either!

Post # 25
8315 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

frogplus :  

Well I have to say I really don’t  like it , even if it wasn’t ‘dated’ . I don’t usually care about ‘dated’, but this is very elaborately so with it’s folds and tucks and beading  and of course that sash.

On the other  hand it’s free and you as say you don’t really care about that, so……. though you also  you also say ‘timeless and classic ‘which  this is decidedly not, unlike claroquesi’s suggestions.

I think I would NOT  get this unless I really really didn’t  mind  what  I wore . I do get not wanting to spend  a ton  of cash , absolutely,  but I think it  might be an idea to work out what  you actually think   ‘timeless and classic’ is ,and then go to sites like Lulus or an  ordinary  department  stores and aviod the  wedding tag  which automatcally   adds heaps of money to everything 

Post # 26
2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’d keep looking, you’ve got a great body so it looks decent but it looks dated to me, I think you could find better. Might as well keep it since it’s free but browse around.

frogplus :  

Post # 27
244 posts
Helper bee

I would keep looking. I agree with the others — it looks dated. You can find a nice(r) dress within your budget from a department store (i.e Macy’s). 

Post # 28
1142 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

frogplus :  I actually think with the right veil it would look very pretty. 

Post # 29
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

The thing to remember is after a while All wedding dresses will look dated. Just look at wedding dresses pictures since the past 100 years. Then at some point the wedding dress you wore will become popular again (retro fashion).

You got your dress for free and you like it, it won’t hurt to meet a seamstress and ask what can be done. She could transform your dress into a classic and timeless dress such as removing the belt, folds etc.

If you buy a dress don’t forget to facture alteration costs. Depending where you live, alterations can easily go up to $500. My dress cost $500 and the alterations was near $500. So it really cost me $1000. I wore the dress for 12 hours. 


Post # 30
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

I dunno. I kinda like it lol. I agree though to get rid of that sash. I think that might improve the dress alot 🙂 I mean keep looking for sure. I had a David’s Bridal dress. No shame. It was 99 dollars and very plain but I liked it. If we had been rich I certainly wouldve chosen another dress but since we weren’t, i found the best one on the sale racks and went with it.

But if you don’t find anything you like alot better then I think you can use that dress. Take it to the tailor and see what ideas they might have to fix it up!

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