(Closed) Not telling co-workers/ future employers you are pregnant

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Whoa!!!!  Should you tell a future employer that if they ask!?!?!?!?!

That type of question is nobody’s business and it is totally illegal in Canada to do so.  Unfortunately small private companies (where people don’t know any better) will ask about those things but a larger government funded place (school board) would not!

I know a few Human Resources Managers who have said that someone being pregnant has affected their decision making process even though it is not supposed to. 

My suggestion would be to do your best to find work before the baby comes along and try to minimize the bump with your interview outfit. 

Let the employer find out after that you’re expecting.  Unfortunately they won’t be celebrating your addition like you are.

Post # 4
46657 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


I definitely don’t think you have any obligation to tell your current co-workers. After all, you aren’t even telling family till Thanksgiving.

These are people you work with, not close friends or family. Your health details are yours to share , or not, as you choose.

As far as applying for a job when pregnant, I don’t know the labour law where you live. Here, you are under no obligation to tell a prospective employer. Employers here are not allowed to discriminate on the basis of pregnancy, but I still know of cases where pregnant women were denied employment. I would not tell them until after I was hired and far enough along that it would soon be obvious.

I don’t agree with the arguement from employers that it is unfair for them to hire someone who is only going to need a leave of abscence in a few months. After all, if you were already an employee and got pregnant, they would just have to deal with it .

Post # 5
75 posts
Worker bee

You should tell them during the interview if they ask, but if they dont ask, then you are not obligated to tell them.  Now, would I tell them? No, heck no, not if I needed the job.  They cant fire you because of pregnancy, and you’re still eligible for benefits-and if youre 8 months pregnanct when those benefits kick in, your pregnancy HAS to be covered.  Its a law.

Post # 7
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just keep in mind that if you decide to get a job (whether it’s teaching or an office job, etc), FMLA laws probably won’t apply (12 weeks off) because you won’t have been with the company for greater than 12 months.  You may want to look your state laws to determine what you are eligible for.  


Employees are eligible for leave if they have worked for their employer at least 12 months, at least 1,250 hours over the past 12 months, and work at a location where the company employs 50 or more employees within 75 miles. Whether an employee has worked the minimum 1,250 hours of service is determined according to FLSA principles for determining compensable hours or work.

Time taken off work due to pregnancy complications can be counted against the 12 weeks of family and medical leave. http://www.dol.gov/dol/topic/benefits-leave/fmla.htm


Edit: Personally, if I was not obviously showing, I would wait until I was offered the position and then bring it up so you can discuss maternity leave at that time.  It’s definitely challenging to prove that you weren’t hired due to being pregnant if you are just in the interview phase, but obviously it would be really easy after they offered you the position and they found out you were pregnant and subsequently took back the offer.  

Also, this probably wouldn’t affect you, but if you were applying for a position that had specific job requirements, such as regularly lifting 100 lbs (which you wouldn’t be able to do while pregnant), you would then probably have to disclose the pregnancy earlier in the process.

Post # 8
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I work in HR, and I would NOT bring this up during your interview.  It is also illegal for them to ask you about pregnancy during the application process and interview, just so you know.  The interview is not the place to bring up personal matters or allowances; wait until you have been offered the job and are in negotiations.  That’s the proper time to notify employer of your pregnancy and future needs (time off, etc…).  And I would do it, so it gives them plenty of time to prepare.

Post # 9
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I told both interviewers when they were interviewing me. Yes, that’s against the grain, but I felt as if it was important due to the schedules they told me about during the interview. One had an important proposal going out right around my due date and the other wanted me to travel doing more around my due date.

I did get a job from one of the interviews. After working there for a while, I asked one of my co-workers if she thought it the right thing to do. She said “yes, because our boss just likes it when people are upfront about anything which could effect work.”

Post # 10
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@dumpling: It’s illegal for them to ask during an interview.

I interviewed for a job when I was about 8 weeks pregnant (we knew at 5 wks, but hadn’t been to the dr yet). My debate was whether to tell them if I was offered the position.

You SHOULD NOT tell them during the interview process, unless it’s blatantly obvious (you are showing, or have to run out of interview to throw up!) Employers aren’t allowed to discriminate, but they do, and it’s hard to prove. Plus, even if you do sue for discrimination, you don’t want that job anyway. However, if you are showing and it’s obvious you are pregnant and not just overweight, then you might want to tell them so that you can discuss your plans and address any concerns they might have, making it more likely for them to give you the job than to just dimiss you altogether because you didn’t address it and they coudn’t address it.

As long as it’s not obvious, I wouldn’t not share with potential employers period. If you get farther along and are showing, I would tell employers for jobs you are looking to start after the baby is born.

Post # 11
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m in HR and can tell you that an employer is not allowed to ask you if you are pregnant, so dont’ worry about it. My advice is to keep it quiet until you are ready to tell your employer. But it sounds like you don’t have to since your positon is ending soon anyway, and taking a leave of absence isn’t necessary since you will not be working at the time you deliver.

Post # 12
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Congratulations!  You should definitely NOT tell anyone unless it’s blatantly obvious.  Employers in the US are looking for any excuse not to hire someone.  You are under absolutely no obligation to tell them.

I didn’t tell my last employer (who was giving me maternity leave) until about 20 weeks, and I interviewed for jobs at 12 weeks pregnant and didn’t say a word.

When I started my new job, I had a 4 month old baby.  No one batted an eyelash.

Ask an HR person not related to your own potential job.  They will tell you not to tell.

Post # 13
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I wouldn’t tell anyone. I’m not telling anyone. I already lost a client because of it. I only wear yoga pants all day anyway. Lots of flowy tops too.

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