(Closed) Not telling yet – what to do when people ask directly

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

How about just deferring? “No news yet but I’ll let you know!” 

Post # 5
4056 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just got a BFP 2 days ago and had a MC in August. We told our moms, but they are the only ones we’re telling Just to stay on the safe side. I’m worrying about hiw to answer people too (especially if they see I’m not drinking). I like the “no news yet, but I’ll let you know answer 🙂

Post # 6
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Im also worried about this. I dont want to tell anybody until 12 weeks but being that my mum is psychic (make of that what you wish but she predicted this pregnancy and due date way back in july!) she will probably keep asking me about it. I cant lie to her she can tell when i am so im thinking of asking for an early scan and making sure there is a heartbeat and then i will tell her with a picture in a xmas card i think =] x

Post # 8
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m 8 weeks and I’ve only told my parents and in-laws.  I’m just lying to everyone else, and while I feel bad about it, until we hear a heartbeat we aren’t saying anything to anyone.  I don’t like lying, but if anything were to happen, at least I don’t have to explain a miscarriage to everyone. 

Post # 9
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We told our families when we saw a heartbeat, waited to tell everyone else.  I did have a couple people who kind of figured it out, and I sort of smiled and made an awkward face, they said “really??” and I said “don’t tell anyone, it’s still really early.”  I definitely flat-out lied to some people though.  It’s obviously different when you’ve had a MC before, but I wouldn’t make yourself crazy about it.

Post # 10
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Tibbs:  She isnt right about everything but then we can change our own destiny. BUT she said to me back in july that my great grandma visited her and she was holding a baby and gave her the dates of august and december. I plan to tell my mum in december (not because she gave me those dates just because thats when ill get my scan) and im due august 2nd lol. Its freaky sometimes but my sisters are psychic too so im quite used to it now, just wish i had the gift too lol. 

Post # 12
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am 9 weeks along and am not telling but if someone asks I have just told them yes but I am really early so we are still cautiously optimistic. Personally I have found that the people who have asked are generally concerned about me since I have been missing some activities due to sickness. 

Post # 13
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

One one of DH’s Aunts asked me flat  out at a baby shower when are Darling Husband and I going to get pregnant? My response (while sitting next to Mother-In-Law who knew and kept squeezing my leg) was “DH and I have talked about it, but we are still in the planning phase. We will let you know when things change” 🙂 

Post # 14
9793 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

“We have no news to share!”


See…. its true!

Post # 15
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Gosh you guys are good to come up with the vague answers that work! I’m not pregnant yet, but I know that when I get put on the spot I never really am able to think of a rational, well-thought out response and usually just flat out lie or get nervous and tell the truth. 

If you can make it work, I like either of the responses posed by @AlwaysSunny:  and @DandSwedding:

Post # 16
1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Tibbs:  Just say, I promise you’ll be one of the first to know when we have something we would like to share! 

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