(Closed) Not thanking for a gift in the thank you card?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hmm did you take it with you to the wedding?  You’d think she would have seen the card connected to it.

Post # 4
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

maybe you can casually mention that you hope she got a lot of the other pieces of china that she registered for, along with the ones that you all gave her, so that her set will be complete.  if she doesnt know that you gave her the china – she’ll be obviously confused by your question and you can straighten it up then.

Post # 5
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

the gift may have been lost or the card became unattached from the box.  Then she wouldn’t have known who the china was from.  I’d casually mention it… maybe a sly email asking if she has made any lovely food to serve on the china yet?

Post # 7
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Maybe you could send her an email saying something to the effect of:  ‘with all car trouble drama we had, we are afraid we might not have taped the card to the box, and now I’m all worried about it, and wanted to make sure you got the card AND the gift’


Sometimes a little honesty is indeed the best policy…

Post # 8
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would ask to see how she liked your gift. Definitely ask. 

Post # 10
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

It’s a good idea to mention it to her. She might not know the gift was from you, part of writing a thank you note is to let the giver know you recieved the gift. I recieved cards from a couple of friends but not gifts, if one of them had sent a gift and it was misplaced somehow I have no way of knowing. I sent thank yous to them just saying how nice it was to see them.

Just call and ask if they recieved the china you brought to the wedding. If she says yes, say “oh good” and ask how they enjoyed their honeymoon trip or some other thing to change the subject 🙂

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