Post # 1
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I went to a wedding about a month ago and just received the Thank You card from the bride and groom. They make no mention of our gift. It was a large set of their china, and I don’t know if maybe the card went missing, but I kind of want to send her a message and ask if she got the gift and knew it was from us. I would hate to have her think that we didn’t get her anything! We schlepped that heavy box all the way to the upper east from midtown!
So…. do I ask her if she knows we got her a gift??
Post # 3
Hmm did you take it with you to the wedding? You’d think she would have seen the card connected to it.
Post # 4
maybe you can casually mention that you hope she got a lot of the other pieces of china that she registered for, along with the ones that you all gave her, so that her set will be complete. if she doesnt know that you gave her the china – she’ll be obviously confused by your question and you can straighten it up then.
Post # 5
the gift may have been lost or the card became unattached from the box. Then she wouldn’t have known who the china was from. I’d casually mention it… maybe a sly email asking if she has made any lovely food to serve on the china yet?
Post # 6
We did, but I forgot to tape on the card and tucked it into the fold on the side… I am normally pretty good with that stuff, but we had a late night the evening before, and then car trouble on the way to her wedding (we were 3 hours late)… I was thinking it the card possibly could have gotten misplaced. But i know you can see who bought you what on your registry, so I don’t know. I don’t want to be rude and be like “um, we got you this gift, now thank us profusely”, but at the same time, I want them to know we weren’t just like, “thanks for the free food and booze…”
Post # 7
Maybe you could send her an email saying something to the effect of: ‘with all car trouble drama we had, we are afraid we might not have taped the card to the box, and now I’m all worried about it, and wanted to make sure you got the card AND the gift’
Sometimes a little honesty is indeed the best policy…
Post # 8
I would ask to see how she liked your gift. Definitely ask.
Post # 9
thanks for all your great suggestions ladies! She isn’t someone I see or talk to very often, more of a friend with my Boyfriend or Best Friend, plus I am a prett direct person, so I will probably just do something like nmsooner suggested.
Post # 10
It’s a good idea to mention it to her. She might not know the gift was from you, part of writing a thank you note is to let the giver know you recieved the gift. I recieved cards from a couple of friends but not gifts, if one of them had sent a gift and it was misplaced somehow I have no way of knowing. I sent thank yous to them just saying how nice it was to see them.
Just call and ask if they recieved the china you brought to the wedding. If she says yes, say “oh good” and ask how they enjoyed their honeymoon trip or some other thing to change the subject 🙂