Post # 1
I’m in a total state of disappointment… I dreamed that planning my (our) dream day would be bliss and full of excitement and yayness!!
The day I got engaged, I called my best friend, dying to share the news. Turns out she had a pretty hard day, so I kinda just told her we got engaged and left it at that… thinking she’ll phone back when she feels better and at least ask how did it happen and show a bit of interest…. Never happened. This broke my heart coz we’re like sisters, her and I… I really wanted her to be happy for us and make a bit of an effort…
Anyway…. I’m getting into the planning, and no one agrees with what I decide!! Not like their oponion should really matter…. But with my best friend sort of “absent” I feel so alone, and having no one to help and take my side, it’s hard! I tried turning to my mom and she conpletely criticizes everything and only looks at “what can go wrong with this…”….My mom in law distroyed the guest list… adding like 40 more names onto it (like I don’t have a budget )
Getting to the point….. I’m really depressed…. and honestly starting to concder on just eloping and getting this over with….. Am I the only one feeling like this??
Post # 3
I felt like this at first. I felt really over whelmed and like no one understood my plans. But, don’t give up just yet. It all clicked into place when we decided on a venue. You’ll have that moment too, and it might not be the venue, but just wait for one of those larger details to click in before you question what you’re doing and everything else will follow. just breathe and talk it out with the Fiance.
Post # 4
I am sorry that people aren’t bucking up and swallowing their issues to show a moment of happiness for you. You never know about your friend….mine were all strangely not excited for the most part because they were all jealous (not saying this in a catty way, they admitted it) that I was engaged before they were when they had been with their SO’s longer.
As for your family, I went through this a lot. Mostly, for things that I didn’t care too much about, I just gave in and thought about what was most important to me: getting married. So I let them push me when it wasn’t too important, but fought like hell when it was. In the end, everyone was much more pleased I think than if I had basically said butt out. But it comes down to personality too. I’m not overly bothered by details…but you may be.
Post # 5
i’m so sorry. wedding planning should be fun. you should be able to enjoy sipping champagne while trying on dresses with your girlfriends.
i’m not going to tell you that it will get better. i gets worse. i have an extremely supportive group of family and friends and i’m stressing out about all the details. i sort of feel like we should have eloped and made it easy on ourselves.