(Closed) Not this week…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’ll happen. When it does, the waiting will all seem worth it. Just try to enjoy your time together [easier said than done] and not stress about it [also easier said than done]. The wating was starting to really get to me, and it was really effecting our relationship. We had some talks, and they really seemed to help.

Post # 4
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923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m going to play devil’s advocate for a minute here.  What are you prepared to do if he doesn’t “take care of business” two months after you’ve moved in?

I’m living with SO now, so obviously I don’t have a problem living togethrt.  But if he decided to move back to his farmhouse in TX I think I would have a hard time justifying the move without some sort of commitment.

Post # 6
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@love108:  Isn’t it funny how guys say they “want it to be a surprise.” I mean I want a surprise too, but you’re right. It can only be a surprise if you don’t expect it. My bf also says that he wants it to be a surprise. he tells me all the time he wants to marry me but then says “i don’t want to do it when you’re expecting it.” Well, sorry buddy, but after several conversations of this, hello, i do know you’re going to propose at some point because YOU TELL ME! oh boys, they are so confusing. They are so adament about the surprise, but if they really wanted it to be a surprise that bad, they should have done it a long time ago before we… oh i dunno… actually started talking about it! lol sorry, for that little rant.

Anyway, I hope you have a great time with your bf visiting, and who knows, you just might get your “surprise.” *i guess it can be a surprise if they catch us off guard, right* (totally just contradicted myself ๐Ÿ™‚ ) well good luck and enjoy your time together ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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1468 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Don’t lose hope. You NEVER know! He could have it in the works…he must if he knows your timeline and plans to move in with you and have you travel far to do so. It’s hard to hang on till the end, but do try.

juneebee: You make some GREAT points.

Post # 8
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663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

Yes! I dont understand the surprise thing at all. It would have been a surprise during our first year together, but now that we live together and have discussed it several times that just aint gonna happen. Now just go out and but the ring and we’ll all be happy ๐Ÿ™‚

I think you bf being in grad school is the biggest culprit. Im around grad student a lot at work and those guys eat, breathe, and live their classes and research. I think you’ll have to take the reins and be prepared to do a lot of the heavy lifting in the relationship until he’s done.  And men cant muti-task nearly as well as we can ๐Ÿ™ Im sorry. But from the sounds of it he wants to be with you just has too many important distractions.

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