(Closed) not to be mean, but..ever been surprised by your SOs ex's looks?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Nope.  He doesn’t really have any pictures of his exes.  I did see a pic of one girl he slept with and I was like “Eh” but I understand some people just aren’t photogenic at all.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have a hard time when I see the pics of women who are not so good looking in the face, but have perfect bodies. You never know what to feel. Should I be proud, cause I’m prettier? Or bummed cause she’s got nicer breasts? Or should I think my SO was being shallow, and dating her for that bod? Or does he still think she’s prettier than me, and I just THINK I have a better face… making her win in both departments!

Looking at pics of exs are unpleasant. I try to avoid it. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not with my current FI but with my ex husband….a lot….he has only 2 exes out of litterally over 100 that were pretty, the rest I just couldn’t help but think “how drunk were you”

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yup…they were ugly but yet again he didn’t have the stones to ask me out because I was wayyyy out of his league..beauty and the dork (he was dorky, not geeky, but I like him:))…

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

his ex-wife looks like jabba the hutt with red hair. but i knew them both before they divorced… so it wasn’t a surprise.

but there is a picture of one of his ex-gfs from highschool that makes me jealous everytime i see it… because she looks alot like me.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes! I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way. I was seriously like WTF? We’ve been together a long time now, so I’ve been able to ask him (I know, I should filter but don’t). He said something to the effect of “it was convenient/you take what you can get sometimes”. They weren’t together all that long, so it wasn’t that outlandish of an answer. He said he finds me much more attractive, but, then again, it’s not likely it would be smart for him to say otherwise. 🙂

@AllShookUp:  I’ve felt like that before too. I’ve thought that maybe I just think I’m better looking, but after some objective though (yeah, right) I’ve settled on me being right. At least it makes me feel better.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hah, yes.  FI is a really wiry, athletic dude—slender, not too tall—and we really match in that way.  His ex-girlfriend (they dated in college and I later entered the same circles, so I actually met her, not just saw pictures) is extremely overweight and not very pretty.  Which is fine…it’s just a really weird combination, you know?  And if that was “his type,” that would make me…really not!

So it was a little weird, but it was also a convenience thing and he had been single for a REALLY long time before they got together.  He says he’s a lot more attracted to me, which as allshookup says, is pretty much what you have to say, haha!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yes yes yes!!!! Omg FIs ex is hideous, I even ran it by a friend just to make sure I wasent being just a biased hater lol.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t say that any of them are outright ugly…but yes lol. Anything I say more than that, I will probably get myself into trouble. Innocent

Also, I look completely different (hair color, height, body type) than anyone else he’s dated. I’m hoping that’s a good thing?!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Haha yes.  There are no pics of the first one, but the second one was just all boobs and nothing else (that kind of thing does NOT make me jealous).  The one he was with for four years was legit pretty, but had an annoying voice.

 

ETA: All of his exes were better looking than pretty much all of mine lol.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes…a couple of them I was like really? My FI’s response is that they “put out” so he didn’t care at the time lol! I’m like even then sheesh is it really worth it? Seriously testosterone must be blinding because otherwise I just don’t understand.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

LMAO. This thread is hilarious. My SO only has one ex, and she is a dog. And she’s not nice and has a terrible personality, so… not sure what happened there.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah, she looks nothing like me. She was also bigger and taller then FI and used her stature to try and intimidate him. She was also physically abusive.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I haven’t seen all of my husband’s exes but the serious one that he had just before me was seriously hideous. Not pretty at all and we look nothing like each other. I’m a lot curvier than her our looks are completely different. Another ex of his that I saw that he dated right after high school was pretty.

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