(Closed) Not to minimize anyone’s sadness, but

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes. It reminds me of how wonderful R is and I think that’s definitely something to be grateful for. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

It definitely does give you that “the grass is always greener” opposite feeling – one that can make you instantly more grateful for what you have, while also allowing yourself to bestow empathy – making everyone’s situation better!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

ditto, sometimes after reading some posts I feel guilty for even being mad at my Fiance over something so stupid, when he really is a great guy.  I try really hard not to take things for granted.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes I feel very blessed…I love my life : )

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yessssssssssss!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Well it makes me think about how difficult things can be for everyone.  Most everyone I know has had problems AT SOME POINT throughout their marriage.  Whether it’s as newlyweds, or 25 years down the line.  I’m love the spot that Fiance and I are in right now, but I’m a realist and I know that our future will certainly include many ups and downs.  I think understanding that marriage is not always a fairy tale, is super important.  Life will always throw you curve balls…

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yes, I feel guilty because my problems begin to seem so small.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I mostly feel angry and frustrated.  Sometimes I want to reach through the screen and say, YOU ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS!  DON’T WASTE ANOTHER SECOND WITH THIS LOSER!  YARRRGH!

Also:  DUDE.  YOU ARE NOT BEHAVING WELL.  THIS HAS BEEN NOTED.  YOU SHALL BE SMACKED FORTHWITH.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think about that sometimes too, and not just in regards to my fiance, but to my whole family.  I am continually thankful for the amazingness of my mother and her willingness to sit back, let me do as I wish and offer me support.  I’ve never received a snarky comment, a turned up nose or a passive aggressive action from her.  And, I feel very sad for women who don’t have a family member to lean on and cheer them on like my mom has for me.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yes I do.  I having been on the bad side & now on the best side EVER, I feel very blessed & fortunate to be here & have found the love of my life!  It took me 14 years to get here & get over things (however some things never go away), but I grew from my experience & I hope that I can help someone who really needs it!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Yes I am glad our families have been so helpful … as of yet atleast Smile

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Totally!  I’m sometimes tempted to thank the people for telling their side of the story, because I totally forget how lucky I am sometimes.  Never do, though, because I don’t think they would typically be in a place to hear it.

I do wish that more people could be loved.  Bad things shouldn’t happen to good people.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I think there has to be a distinction made between “couples’ problems” and “dysfunctional relationships.” It’s one thing to argue with your spouse about one issue, and quite another to be in a relationship that isn’t working and can’t ever work. When you are the on the wrong side of this, you literally can’t see the difference.

If healthy relationships come naturally to you, it’s very difficult to see how someone could ever be attracted to (or attract) a partner who is fundamentally mean or abusive or whatever. It is much more complicated than wanting someone to “snap out of it,” and in fact this could be considered judgement, because it’s like saying, “Why don’t you think like me?” when instead, we should be trying to do the opposite.

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