(Closed) Not to wonderful bridesmaid….

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow. If you don’t plan on being friends with this chick after the wedding I’d just ask her not to be in the wedding. It’s not about catering to your every move but just to be there and support you. Doesn’t sound like she’s doing either. 

Post # 4
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know your wedding is only 16 days away, but can you ask somebody else to stand in her place? If not I agree with Jessy727.

Post # 5
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It doesn’t sound like she cares much or even wants to be in your wedding.

Has she been this way the whole time? If she has, then geesh, I would boot her out. She doesn’t sound like a very good friend at all.

If this has been more recent, perhaps she’s having a rough time at her job/school/life, whatever the case may be?

Post # 7
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

What a piece of work this girl is!! I would do as she says and take it up with her, and after I said what I had to say, I’d be minus one RUDE Bridesmaid or Best Man and probably much happier for it:)  Just puttin in my 2 cents

Post # 8
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Yikes! Have you asked her if she still wants to be in the wedding? It doesn’t sound like she does… 

Post # 9
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow, what a crappy friend! I agree with AlwaysSunnydoesn’t sound like she wants to be in the wedding. Did something happen in your guys’ relationship that may have sparked this? I can’t imagine a good friend suddenly changing to that extent…

Post # 11
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ugh! What a jerk! Just pretend she doesn’t exist until the wedding. If she doesn’t get her dress fixed, she can’t stand up for you! Do you have a smaller friend who could wear the dress, if worst comes to worst?

Post # 12
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Ellebelle:  I would just let her be in the wedding and then cut off all ties with her because she is not being much of a friend. Why one earth be someone’s Bridesmaid or Best Man and not even want to help…even a little bit. That is ridiculous. 

Post # 13
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

First of all, date twins! 🙂 Yay, countdown is ON!

I had a similar situation with my Maid/Matron of Honor. Ultimately, I thought about how I want to feel on my wedding day. I tend to stress easily and it’s really important to me to surround myself with people who will support me and not add to my stress. So, I asked her to step down – to be exact, I said, “I think you have other things competing for your time, and I’m going to let you off the hook from being in my wedding.” You may not have a relationship with her afterwards, but really, with the way she’s behaving, do you need one? Just leave the programs, flowers, etc as-is (no one will remember) and ask her to step down. Ultimately, you want to feel good and loved by those around you on your wedding day.

Post # 14
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

So you asked her to do some stuff and she said no.  Well, what stuff WAS that you asked her to do?


Getting her dress altered is on her…..



She doesn’t want to stay with you the night before the wedding.  I’m not sure why this is an issue.  I’ve been in 8 weddings before, I’ve never stayed with the bride the night before the wedding.  Was I supposed to?  

Post # 15
8 posts

It’s not about catering to your every move but just to be there and support you.

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