(Closed) Not trying to be a bridezilla, but I’m really disappointed…

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No I totally agree and would be very disapointed this is not friends it family for peat sake.

Post # 4
3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

No, I think you have every right to be disappointed. I get it about wanting to stay healthy, but seriously, you could get the flu at the grocery store or gas station… you can’t live in a bubble and stay in your house your whole life. I’m sorry hon. 🙁


Post # 5
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think you have every right to be disappointed as well. I would be disappointed if I were you and this were happening to me. I completely agree with layla–people could get the flu at the grocery store or the gas station. I work in a hospital and I have come to terms with the fact that I am probably going to come down with H1N1 sometime over the next few months. A couple people in my department have already had and are just recently getting over it.

I would also be pretty upset if people that had already Rsvp’d that they were coming decided at the last minute not to come because of family things. I can understand if they were really really important things or an emergency or something. I don’t think you are out of line at all to be upset about it. I think you should talk to those people that are better than good friends and see why they decided to change their mind at the last minute and tell them how much this hurts you.

Post # 6
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

You don’t sound ugly or mean – quite the opposite, actually.  You are being understanding of the fact that everyone has their lives and other things going on – yet, OF COURSE, you would be disappointed.  I’m really sorry to hear that the guest list is dwindling – it really stinks!!!

Try to balance the disappointment by reminding yourself that the most IMPORTANT thing that will be happening is you get to marry your beloved.  

Also, even though it would have been wonderful for your brother and SIL to be there, maybe you can figure out a weekend trip in the next year where you’d be able to spend some quality time with his family.  That way, everyone can really get to know Fiance – which is a lot more than they would have been able to do during the wedding festivities.



Post # 8
3 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think your brother is being overly paranoid and his excuse is lame.  This is your wedding!  You’re his sister!  No excuses.

Post # 9
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree — if your brother and his wife are that worried about the kids, then it makes sense for her to stay behind with them. But he should make every effort to be at your wedding. Come on!

And your sister — why is she potentially not going to be there to help prepare for the wedding? It is circumstance on her side, or does she not realize how much you’re counting on her help? She needs to step up (unless something serious is holding her back from being there on Thursday).

I don’t think encore weddings are any less significant than the first time around. You deserve to have your loved ones there celebrating with you. Try to focus on the 80 people who will highly value this day alongside you, and make the most of it.

Here’s hoping you get a beautiful day that’s full of love!

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