(Closed) Not unity candle, sand, or wine box ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

In a way they are all kind of superfluous – a wedding is by definition a “unity ceremony.”

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@KCKnd2:  +1 I’m not a fan of any of those unity ‘ceremonies’ they seem cheesy to me. but that’s just my opinion

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I struggled with those options too. We ended up not doing any of those things for our ceremony because none of it appealed or “felt” like us. The only idea that I was open to that I would suggest, if you are looking for other options is doing a “ring warming.” I loved the idea and felt it would engage our guests in the ceremony, but DH was afraid our guests would be confused and that the logistics wouldn’t work for us, so we ended up not doing it. I still think it would have been great to have done it, but not regretful that we didnt. Our ceremony lasted a good 25 minutes without all of that and we were lucky to have an awesome officiant who did a great job performing a beautiful and memorable ceremony and really personalizing it so it was meaningful for us and our guests without having to include the unity candle/sand/wine ceremony.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re doing a hand blessing ceremony. Our pastor gave us a sample of all different things to add to our ceremony.. originally I wasn’t going to add anything until I read the hand blessing. I just thought it was so sweet!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We did a couples rose ceremony.  It was really sweet. We gave each other a rose as our first gift to each other as a married couple and our officiant read the following:

In remembrance of this day, as a reaffirmation of your love and of the vows you have spoken here today, please give each other a single rose each year on your anniversary. In the best of marriages there are difficult times. I ask that you remember this moment and that when words fail you that you place a single rose on your spouse’s pillow as a way to say, “I remember our vow” and “I love you” Let this exchanging of roses be the beginning of a lifelong tradition of unspoken love.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@redhead46:  isnt your first gift meant to be the rings? im confused.

@pecanpie:  whats a hand blessing? ive never heard of it?

 

@LaurenKK:  im in the same boat, im anti drugs so the wine box doesnt suit us though i love the idea. and the candle and sand seem a bit funeral to me

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Steph18:  We didn’t really consider the rings as a gift to each other.  It was an exchanging of the rings.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Steph18:  Anti drug? Wine isn’t a drug..?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@mixtapehearts:  Alcohol is a drug. wine is a drug.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If the hammering is the only thing putting you off the wine box, get yours made with a hasp and lock it closed instead of nailing it closed.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We also did a rose exchange.  Our officiant had a longer verse that he read.  The guests thought it was very sweet.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not sure if you’re Christian at all, but we used the Biblical “cord of three strands” verse and I braided a cord together while Darling Husband held it, to symbolize our unity to each other an God. If you’re not Christian though it doesn’t really work 😛

Otherwise, like a PP mentioned, I’ve heard a lot of people doing a hand blessing ceremony. Google it, there are a lot of versions and you can really customize it to fit yourselves. It wasn’t for us but it sounded pretty cool.

If you can’t find anything you like, I don’t think having any kind of “unity” ceremony is necessary… the wedding itself is about uniting you, and I don’t think anyone would notice if you just didn’t do anything specific for it.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

we’re not doing anything for ours other than breaking the glass (jewish) since my FI’s family is Jewish.  Just not into any of the other ones.

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