(Closed) Not using a friend's DJ service. How to tell them?

posted 5 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

when in doubt, blame your fiance! Mine surely does it to me. “Oh, thanks so much for this! While we were waiting for your quote, Jake continued to researching and now he’s really attached to another DJ that he interviewed. Selecting the music is his one big contribution to the planning, so I don’t want to take his favorite DJ away.” This is what I would do because it minimizes awkwardness as it takes the blame off you, and actually shifts a portion of the blame to your friend because she realizes that had she not taken so long to get back to you, she may have gotten the job. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@newcitylights:  blame your fiance, tell her that it was his fault and that he chose the other DJ without telling you! =P ihihi..naah just kiddin..

mmmh.. well just try to explain the situation and tell her that you need a certain type of service that is not what her DJ is going to provide.. I don’t know what kind of guest you have but tell her that some of them don’t really enjoy the “club-dancing” scene (maybe because they’re older of they are very shy and reserved people) and you don’t want to make them feel uncomfortable.. you want to keep everybody happy!! I know it’s hard, and it’s difficult to find the right words to explain the situation, but if she is a REAL friend she will understand that you want YOUR day to be perfect and will accept your decision! =)

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Overjoyed:  +1. Genius idea. This is what I do and my Fiance doesn’t seem to care, lol. I just say, “I can’t possibly veto one of my FI’s only decisions in the wedding. I’d just feel so bad.” Works like a charm 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

definitely fine to fib a little in this instance. you could even say that he’s a preferred vendor of your venue, but i love the ‘my fi is in charge of music and he’s super excited about ‘x’ – i’ll definitely pass your info on to any other brides i know though!’

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@adoc86:  girl, I overheard mine straight up tell one of his relatives that his fiancee really loves the water and she couldn’t imagine not getting married on a yacht. Actually, I get violently motionsick and will be heavily medicated during the reception, lol. We chose the yacht because of the package they offer, but whatevs. We’re a team. Sometimes we have to block for each other 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@newcitylights:  

 just tell her you found a DJ that more fits the taste and vision of what you saw for your wedding.

 

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